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A supremely emotionally distressed love triangle.
Okay, so. This may be long but bear with me.
Blake and Ryan are both 17, and I am 15.
My friend Blake, is best friends with this boy Ryan. I'm really good friends with Ryan too. Blake has had a really large crush on me for the better part of 2007, and still has it now. Ryan and I really have strong feelings for each other. We've hung out twice without Blake and both times have been astounding. We've kissed a few times, and they've all been so amazing and we've only made out once. We get along really great and he's the sweetest boy ever. We went to the fair yesterday, and he won me a stuffed dog and we kissed on the ferris wheel and it was really truly great.
Now, Blake says that he "loves" me. But he won't let Ryan and I have a relationship. He doesn't even want us to be friends. It really hurts, because Ryan and i really have strong feelings and would like to act upon them. And we really just don't know what to do about Blake. He's being incredibly irrational. He's one of those people who wants everything his way. He's mad that Ryan and I like each other, he thinks that Ryan can't like me if he likes me because they're friends. But i think that Blake should let Ryan and I have a relationship if he really cared, because he should want us to be happy.
And on top of that, Blake is trying to get with Ryan's ex as well. So not only is he being irrational, but hypocritical as well.
My question is, what do i do about Blake and Ryan? Ryan and I don't want to have to date secretly, and we want blake to be happy too because we're his friends. But in doing so we can't do what we want to do. It's like we're taking too much time pleasing him that we can't even have fun.
What should i do?
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Or you could just not date either of them and remain just friends. What would happen if you and Ryan went out and after a few months you decide it's not going to work? Will you have lost both friends then? You are 15 now and relationships come and go but a good friends are tough to come by.
Whatever...
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You know what don't worry about blake, i understand you guys care about him because he is your friend and want him to be happy but at the same time, you guys should be happy too... I hate to say this but maybe you guys need to put him in is place by explaining to him that you want to be with each other and its not up to him to say. If this causes you to loose a friend, then he wasn't your friend in the first place. Don't worry about making him happy worry about You and Ryan. It sounds to me like he is a great guy and you really like him so don't let someone else control you and get in the way of that happiness good luck!
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