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stuck in the middle, awkward peacemaker...
Oh, here it goes(sryy this is kinda long)... My friend, Lexi, is well liked by everyone. She's really cool, and we are pretty much best friends. No prob, right? Well, a couple years ago, in sixth grade, this girl (lets call her Polly) was my best friend, and in the first part of seventh grade, but now Lexi hates her. so im just sitting there, like what? So theres this other girl(Nikki) who i LOATHE entirely, and my Polly is now best friends with her, and i feel us drifting away, and now Polly is terrible. She took on a totally different personality. Like she is absolutely annoying and loud and obnoxious, and I want to kill this other girl, Nikki. Partly because she copies every little thing people do (my pet peeve) and now Polly is doing that. So I hate her a little, but I still remember when Polly and I were best friends. I want to be friends with her again but i cant be with her when she's with Nikki, so I need to split them up. Although I really want to be friends with both Polly and Lexi, because they both are really cool and nice. But I can't if Nikki is around. Here are my question for you, okay?
1. WHAT SHOULD I DO?
2. How should I go about doing this?
Thanks a bunch! 14/f
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Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
Sit them all down, and tell them that you want to be friends to be with them all, but to do that, you want them to work through all of their issues with each other in a civilised disscusion.
Stand by and help them through, and all you must do is to find out something which will work for each other. Don't let it get out of control and keep them focused. REMEMBER, DON'T FORCE THEM INTO ANYTHING WHICH MIGHT JEPORDISE THE ENTIRE POINT OF THE MEETING.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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Oh wow, I know exactly what you're going through, I'm going through almost the same thing. You should confront Polly. She might feel the same way. Just completely ignore Nikki. Sometimes people change an d drift away. Exspecially around this age. And you can be friends with Polly and Lexi. You just can chill with them together.
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WOW!!!! This is a hard one. First of all, If you want to be friends with Polly again... I think that you need to talk to her about how you are drifting apart. If she really is or ever was your friend, she will listen to what you have to say. And if she doesnt, then you dont need someone who backstabs your friendship. A real and true friend stick with you no matter how many new friends they have. About Nikki.... maybe you are just not getting to know the real her. Have you ever thought that maybe she copies people because she looks up to them? Like a role model. Thats not such a bad thing you know. That used to be one of my pet peeves too. But then I learned that sometimes people copy you because they look up to you. I think that Lexi also may need to get to know Polly and maybe she will find out things that she didnt know before. Splitting them up is not a good idea. That is just going to backfire in your face. Being a bitch gets you know where. And that is exactly what you will be if you go about it in that kind of way. Conversation is a powerful thing and it takes awhile to really get to know someone. Always remember also... Hate is a stong word and I think you really need to understand someone as a person before you go around trying to get rid of people!!! LOL If the conversation thing does not work for you then I think she isnt a good friend at all and I think in the future you should choose your friends wisely. Friends dont backstab each other or leave them when they find another friend. They stay true to each other. Good Luck!!! If you have anymore questions, I would be happy to help you out.
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