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So, this might be a little long and confusing. Basically my best friend, who've I've known since 2nd grade is getting really annoying. She's turning really fake [getting into the whole hollister thing, uggs, shirts that are too small for her, etc (though I dont' really have anything against that, its just not like the kind of person she is)]. She always pretends that she worries soo much about different things, when she really doesn't. No offense to her, but she always talks about how she wants to go to a top name college, but she doesn't really have any chance in getting into it. She's just become really annoying, and fake. She says OMG and what the frick in this really annoying, complaining voice. I've NEVER talked behind her back before, but she keeps on coming up to me and talks how she hates her one friend. She always takls about how she doesn't want to be friends with her, and basically talks behind her back and just complains all of the time. We sit together at lunch, and I can't stand to even talk to her anymore. I usually just sit there really quiet and do my homework. Basically, I don't know what to do. I really just need a break from her, but I dont' really know what to do. I mean I don't want to be really mean about it, or tell her these things because I know it would crush her, I just have nooo idea what to do. I literally can't stand another day sitting at the lunch table listening to her complain (and I can't really switch lunch tables because then she would ask me what's wrong) help pleassse.
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tell her this. it might be hard, but it would definitely give her a wake-up call. if you can't face her directly, write her a note and give it to her.
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Why is she becoming fake? Most likely its because she is trying to fit in with other people. Those other people might even the ones she holds as a higher influence. In a situation like this, you have to give it a shot and if nothing happens just let it go. What I mean is, you need to tell her straight out. If she is your best friend, then you should be able to tell her anything, and that shouldn't destroy things between the two of you...thats why you are best friends.
At this point, you need to let her know that you don't like the way shes become or the way she acts. You might come off strong and offensive, but if she felt that way about you, then I'm sure you would want to know about it. If after telling her how you feel about all of this she doesn't make an effort to mend things, then you should consider just drifting away. It might be a bit harsh to just cut lines and move to a different table or agree to never speak again. Instead, slowly, just move away from the friendship.
When most people change that way and even their best friend doesn't like it and wants them back, its difficult to get that person back. It's not impossible, but it has already reached the point where you can't even bare to continue this. So tell her how you feel about all of this and see if she would be willing to fix things and make things right between the two of you. If she tries then why not give her a chance and help her out. Maybe spend more time together or go hang out with a different crowd. If she's your best friend and doesn't want to hear about what you have to say about her, then it would probably be best to drift away to avoid a confrontation with her later. Hope that helped and good luck.
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You can't switch lunch tables and I admire that you don't want to seem mean about it. Try talking her and telling her how you feel. If you can't mend the friendship, I dunno waht to tell you! Hope I helped!
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