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I dont know what to do.
So i have this friend right. And were really good friends like best friends haha. and we talk everynight. i still like him and i know he kinda still likes me. I guess you can say were friends with "benefits" =/ anyways. he started ditching me and hes always leading me on and getting my hopes up. For example he finally texts me and hes like wanna talk tonight cutie? and im like UH YEA haha no im like sure i called him twice he never called back. I was up till 12:30 in the morning just waiting for him to call. I know that sounds desperate but i like him alot and i cant even picture him with anygirl. another example he was telling me on new years eve he met this one girl through his friends and shes our age and shes really pretty and she almost gave him a blowjob and she would do all this stuff with him. And how he was gonna give it a try with her. and how he wanted it to work. then a few minutes or a half hour later hes like oh my god i wanna be with you forever i love you. I just cant take it anymore. The pain of loosing him and listening to him talk about hooking up with 18 year olds (were both 15) and i just think it would be easier and less painful if i walk away before he leaves me for good. I just i cant do that its too hard. But im sick of him standing me up. i know "theres other fish in the see, youl get over him" but for the meantime what do you guys think i should do? thanks so much.
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Haha - Oh dear it appears Im in exactly the same situation as you :) Oh dear :) I really sympathise with you as Im EXACTLY the same!! x] so Im going to help you and along the way, it mgiht help me too:)
So, I see youve had some suggestions just to stop giving it up to him... like the first, but I think we both know its too hard to do that :(. What I think we should do, because we care about them - is just discuss to them how we feel. Recently i wa svery upset and in a lot of trouble and he came through for me then - so, make sure he knows when youre upset, he might show you just how much he values you!
Other than that, I think you should also show him that your not dependant on him, because if he thinks that then hell think he can just take everything. Flirt with other people, make sure he talks to you first! When he texts you don't give him kisses on the end, and take a while to reply :)
I've done this and its beginning to work :)
Remember your best friends, thsi girl and him are not. You know his weaknesses, he knows you well, and this is your advantage :)
Good luck sweetie.Xx
Wow, well thats kinda scary x] when I saw your answer back I had just gotten the news that my attachment really wants to have sex with this ultra gorgeous latina girl x]. But at the same time, Im not going to worry too much and I dont think you should either. After all, they want us too! If he wants some cheap blow job from an 18 year old he probably doesn't even know properly thats fine - let him have his fun. Neither of us are gonna let go just because of a regulation hottie taking our man though, I don't think :). You are so much than just anal and blow job on legs, youre his mate! - He wants to 'hang' with you, that just goes to show that he likes you as a person, not just what you're doing with your mouth/hands, like this 18 yr old or whoever! x]! But he can't egt away with this scott free either :) what Im doing is like.. acting like I dont care. I wont text him, when he flirts with me ill just say good for you! If he calls you say yuo can'yt talk right now because you're with somebody else.. XD and if he acts worried, then it should show you that eh really cares about you :). If he doesn't then I think we should both think up a plan b:D to what to do with these problems :D hehe. My friend does this with her boyfriend all the time, and it works VERY well.
I think we should stop letting them have control, stop letting them play the mind games on us and play them back, and better :D
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Listen, the way to get a guy is not to be "friends with benefits."
As the old saying goes, "Why buy the cow when you get the milk for free?"
Harshly put, but honest. Why would he want to commit to a relationship with you if you are giving him all of the benefits with no strings attached?
Stop giving it up to him. When he questions it, tell him you decided you would rather share yourself with someone who is more committed to you.
ygs-29/f
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He obviously doesn't want to lose you, but doesn't know what he wants exactly, so make him see what a great girl he would lose if he keeps acting the way he has been. Don't talk to him a lot, and see if he makes an effort to talk to you, make him miss you. Let him text you or call you, don't be the one to do it first, let him see what it feels like, and hopefully he will change overtime...
Hope it works out in your favor :]
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YOu have to ask him directly whether he's serious about this relationship. He cannot keep on getting you hopes up and then dropping them, that's not fair at all. YOu must express your feelings to him and how much he means to you, and how much you really want this relationship to work.
See where his feelings are and then you can move on from there. Talk to each other and listen, don't yell or shout because that will make things a little bit more complicated for the both of you nad you'll work through your issues. Remember: perfect relationships are hard to come by, but you can make it happen if you talk to each other.
hope this helps,
triquetra
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Oh girl don't even start lol. I went through the same thing too ^_^.......for two years actually =
It can do some damage to you emotionally. He is two years older than me ALMOST. He would always want me to come over and try to hang out then he started dating other girls and forgot about me unless I talked to him first. He would want me to call him and when I did he would have to get off in like 10 minutes for god knows what. But if I didn't call him then he got all "why didn't you call me" ya know? Now I am a sophomore and he is a senior and he says he really likes me and I can tell he does now and he has changed so much. Maybe thats what your guy needs. He needs to know what wonderful girl he is missing out on and maybe then he will come back to you =]. Now I will be honest sometimes it works but not always. So don't get your hopes up. I would advise trying something like that just stay kinda friends with him and let him know your done with being hurt. If he doesn't come back to you I advise you just give up and leave. After I gave up on my guy I found the 2nd love of my life this year. It MIGHT happen to you too girl.
Corbie, ily ^_^ GOODLUCK
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