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prenant..and thinking about moving inwith my boyfriend.
okay well yes im 15 and yes im pregnant.
its two months on the 3rd.
i talked to my parents.
they said i should keep it.
and so did my boyfriends parents.
but heres the thing...the only way we could both take care of the baby was if we moved in together.
so my question is should i move in with or no?
*wasnt sure what category tis should go under**
thanks ahead of time.
Megan
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I am glad you have the support of your parents who want you to keep it. It is even better that your boyfriend's parents feel the same.
The truth is, it probably is not the best idea for you two to live together. You ARE 15 and old enough to get pregnant. Unfortunately at 15 you are not at an age where you are likely to be with the boy forever. If you move in with him or he with you, it would be a really difficult situation if you two decided to go your separate ways, romantically. I hope he will always be there for the baby, but if you move in with him and then break up... you will have to move again. And vice versa. Right now you are in the protection of your home and your parents who, given they want you to keep it they will likely offer assisstance in raising the baby. Imagine how helpful it would be for you to have your mom around when things happen, meaning the baby gets a cough or cries all night. Two 15 year olds arent likely to know how best to handle the situation. Encourage the boy to be in the baby's life, and maybe when you two get out of high school if you are still together you could consider getting an apartment or somthing. But for now... it just seems to me that staying where you are is best for you and your baby. You are just a kid yourself and could really use the help from Mom, especially when the baby comes.
You can both take care of the baby even if you don't live together. Look at the 51% of families who are divorced. They take care of their families without living together. You just have the bonus of having loving parents as well as the support of the parents of the father of your baby!! The baby will grow up knowing everyone important in its life loves it.
Best of luck with your situation.
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You need to stay with your family.
You can raise the baby better with the help of your mother and father better than you could if it was just you and him. If he wants to move in with you, thats wonderful. But the safest thing for you to do right now is to stay with people you know well and trust - aka your parents. You're their baby and they will take help you as best they can through thick and thin.
Good luck =] I hope your baby is born healthy and happy!
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No you should not. Simple as that. Living together is NOT the only way two people can care for a baby. People do it all the time without living together. You both need to finish school, and you both need to decide what you want to do with your life before you EVER decide to live togther or get married. He can come over to your house to see the baby, and play with him/her. He can still be a great father, without the two of you living together. PLEASE do not make the awful mistake that 'because of the baby' we had to. There is NOTHING that you have to do with a baby, that you don't without. If your parents are supportive, and both sets seem to be, then you can make this work and finish school, and go to college, and make the right decesions. Please, do NOT move in together because of a baby. It is NOT the answer.
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I think you could im not exactly sure if that is best and couldn't he move in with you cause your family could probably help with the baby more and help YOU cause they are YOUR family. if you guys do move in together PLEASE sleep in different rooms and do NOT have sex again because do you want to end up with another baby? if you have more questions please send me a message! ;)
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