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i'm leading him on :/
15/f i'm inexperienced at dating guys or even getting asked out and 2 days ago, this guy professed his love to me online and said that he wants me to go out with him. and he kept on flattering me and i was like whoahh, you know? too much attention.
i don't like him. he's sweet but just not my type.
i didn't know what to answer him when he asked me out, so I said i'll think about it. and now he's assuming that i meant that its a maybe. that he has every right to hug me or do stuff.
its not a maybe. its a no.
i just dont want to break his heart. he told me the last girl who rejected him broke his heart. and he gave me all this bs about how im the right one, and how he can't live without me.
and i'm like : you're kidding right?
he wasn't.
i'm really confused. how do i go about getting 'rid' of him in a nice way? i'm so new to this..
and i'm beginning to think maybe i led him on :/
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wow, you've just perfectly described my situation.
just tell him how you feel.
yeah, the last girl that rejected him broke his heart - but obviously he doesn't feel that bad 'cause he's already moved on to you.
life's all about living it, can you really do that if you go out with him and hold back all the time 'cause you don't wanna break his heart?
what about you? its okay to be a little selfish every now and then.
as far as doing this in a nice way? just say something like, "you've told me how you feel and i think its only fair that you know i don't feel the same. you're very sweet and all, so i'm sure there are plenty of other girls that would be willing to go out with you." and if he gives you more bs about there is no other girl than you, or no other girl will even give him a second look be like, "then you haven't looked hard enough."
and whatever you do don't say, "you're just not my type," just trust me.
and i think you know better, but don't do the cliche "its not you, its me" thing.
hope i helped. <3
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The worst thing you can do is keep this going or ignore him. He may have gotten hurt in the past, but if you two aren't that close..It would seem a bit strange for his heart to be broken. He may get hurt and disappointed, but it was sort of messed up for him to tell you about his past rejections. It sounds like he wants you to feel sorry for him and not to hurt him. Or either that he trusts you and thinks you'll say yes. = The nicest way you can put it, is that you don't want a relationship right now. If he understands that enough, he won't ask questions. You can always say 'I don't really know you that well to go out with you. I just want to focus on my work and hang out with friends. I don't want to be attached sort of thing.' or 'I think it would be better if we are just friends' Even if you do want a relationship, when the time comes you could say you changed your mind. It's really hard to reject a person who is like that. I had that happen when i was already with someone. You just have to let him down as nicely as you can. Either online or in person. Tell him he's sweet BUT, you don't like him that way. If it's in person, make sure you two are away from people. You don't want him to get hurt/embarrassed if someone else is there. That's the nicest way to put it. Make sure you are both on good terms, so he's not extremely disappointed. You can be friends but nothing more.
Don't feel guilty or anything about your decision. Some girls fall for that and end up saying yes when they aren't interested in the guy. If you are nice about it, there shouldn't be a problem. Just don't get close to the guy again because he may get hope.
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sugar, let me tell you...this is what you say.. you tell him your sorry but you dont like him like that, its nothing personal hes just not your type, and if you were to be "the one" you would like him too, but you dont and your sorry....sound convincing...tell him your flattered that he is so nuts about you and your sorry if you led him on, but you just want to stay friends first,,,hope it all works out!!
xoxo
teardrops7
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Well, I wish guys had the heart of steel that some people think we do. In reality we do not. You will break this guys heart, and it will most likely break very loudly. A number of factors will affect how long the pain will last. Sometimes its days, other times its years (and I speak from personal experience on the latter).
Now, that being said, you have to tell him. The sooner you do, the less painful it will be (even though it may be very very painful indeed). The only way to get "rid" of him is to tell him the truth. It will be better than lying in most cases, but it may still get messy.
When you do tell him, be honest, but remember that the whole thing about you being the only one for him... its not bs to him. Not at all.
Despite the nasty situation you are in, look at this as a learning experience. Next time reject the guy right away if you realise you do not like him. It will save you a headache later.
So, just to conclude, be honest and firm. Explain to him what you are thinking, and make sure he realises you have nothing against him as a person. He will still hurt a lot, but he will probably get over it in the near future.
Best of luck.
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i ahve had this happen it sucks!!!
ok so to get "rid" of him kind of just ignore him and act uninterested or just say another guy asked you out from another school close by and just like dont get too caught up in the lie it can backfire sometimes but be careful and it won't.
u can ask me a question any time i check my column everyday so just ask if u have any questions!
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ehh if you feel bad about him, then your hopeless. you CANT feel bad lol!! if you do then youll give in to some guy you really DONT wanna even touch. just straight up tell him hes sweet, but your really not interested in dating anyone right now..
or you can tell him hes sweet, but not your type. its not that hard. just make sure you tell him kinda exactly how you feel.. and make it clear that he has NO chance or else he will keep bothering you..
and about breaking his heart.. wont happen. hes a boy.. he'll heal lol!
messageme if you have any other questions!
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