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Over protective
Over all, my om and dad are pretty cool with letting me do things, but there is one that that really gets under my skin and bugs me!
They dont allow me to go to the mall by myself, i mean, sometimes they do, if im lucky, i just asked them for freedom and they said they'd allow me to do more things on my own. Which is good, but i know they wont let me go. In the past theyve let me go with my friend, but they know her and her mom real well. But i just got invited to go to the mall with a bunch of friends, and they said no! How the heck am i supposed to make friends, im a freshmanin high school, and made tons of new friends, theyve all asked me to go places with them, but i feel embarrassed telling them that im not allowed. They also said that I cant go to the mall with these kids they dont know (AKA: new friends) how will i ever have friends if they dont allow me to get together with them??!!
So my questions are:
How do i prove to my parents that ill be okay by myslef?
And how do i send the message that my new friends are really good kids, and that they have nothing to worry about?
Im really cought in a pickle and need you guys!
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As a parent, I know the horrible thoughts that may be going through your parent's minds. However, I see your point too. Here is my advice.
It seems there is a common theme here. Your parents don't want you going out with a group of people they really don't know. They let you go occasionally with one friend they DO know. So, why don't you try giving your parents the opportunity to get to know your new friends. You know, meet your parents 1/2 way. It's October. Have a hot dog and marshmallow roast at your house, invite your friends over for hot dogs, marshmallows, chips, and pop and just hang out with your friends and your parents for a few hours. Then maybe have a pizza and movie night with these same friends and your parents. Perhaps after one, two, or three nights of this your parents may feel more comfortable letting you go out. This will also show your parents you are mature enough and responsible enough to understand where they are coming from and they may give you more freedom.
This is an age where bad things happen all to easily to kids and teens. Your parents sound like smart enough people to know that they are not excluded from this. Some people think "that will never happen to me". This gets you into trouble. Your parents love you. If you cut them some slack and meet them 1/2 way, they may cut you some slack too!!!
Good luck :)
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The only way I know of is to prove to your parents how responsible you are. Talk to them again, and tell them you can show them how responsible you can be. Let them choose a task or if you can come up with one, that will show them how responsible you are. This usually wins parents over.
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show them that youre independent enough to take care of yourself..do the things youre mother didnt expect you to do, like wash clothes, cook for yourself,wake up early,do your assignments...it would surely impress them and it might lead them to allow you go out with your friends...and maybe when asking for permission, tell the truth!!!...go home on time and and tell them who your with...actually, my parents are also acting like that..!!but I just understand them..!!good luck!!
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