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am I trying too hard in school?
15/f. Unlike most of the people in my academic classes, I work my ass off trying to get As and Bs. And usually I succeed at that. But to what extent? Getting 5-4 hours each night, not having ANY time to do ANYTHING on the weekends, and being a social outcast in my friends' eyes.
On the other hand; the majority of my peers don't do crap. They don't read. They don't study. They don't do homework. They don't care. They get out with Cs and Ds. Yet, it doesn't bother them.
How is this so? Am I doing something wrong? Is there some kind of change in the way teens are supposed to function or something? I heard doctors say that teens should get 7 hours of sleep. Yet I don't. And I really want to. I want to be able to just get Bs. Because I'm content with Bs.
Advice? :(
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If you're spending 4-5 hours a night on homework there is something wrong. If you spend that much time, I'd expect you to get 100% on everything. Honestly, you should not be spending that much time on homework in order to get good grades. I think you should seriously talk to a counselor about your work load and if it can be lightened in anyway (extra help, etc). If it is taking you that long to do homework my guess is that you're having trouble seeing as most of my peers (i am about the same age as you) do less homework than you and are coming up with straight a's including myself. Those kids who dont do the work are getting bad grades, but EVERYONE or MOST people are NOT getting bad grades and they are doing the work, but it is not taking them as long. It doesn't look good to have AMAZING grades (straight a's) and yet no social life or extra curriculars. Colleges look for extra curriculars and social skills. If you have nothing to show then good grades wont get you very far. I suggest talking to a counselor about your work load or joining something social to make the work seem less stressful because you are doing other fun activities.
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Okay. Here's my opinion on the matter: You learn more in high school than just what your teachers teach you. It is supposed to be a complete life experience, and if you're holed up in your room studying all the time, you are going to miss out on a lot. You'll make memories in high school that will be with you for the rest of your life, and you don't want all of them to be about tests you passed. Also, don't be like your friends. Keep your standards up to A's and B's. But go out on the weekends. Hang out with your friends. Have fun. You're only young once, go enjoy it. There can be a balance between Social and Studious. You just have to go out and test the waters to see what works best for you.
Good luck, have fun!
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I don't think the way you do things is wrong, but I would try to tone it down a bit. You said you have no social life & that could hurt you. Good grades are important, but so is relaxing & having fun for a bit.
Try to chill out. Still work your hardest & do your best, but make time for friends & fun too. Life doesn't revolve around good grades.
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I understand what you're asking, and the best explanation I've come up with is that to really truly succeed and get what you want, it takes work. Life takes hard work.
BUT, you can get succeed and still have time for yourself and friends. If you find yourself not having time for that at all, then your schedule does need more room for that. It's so important to get an hour or two to relax and do what you want. You should tell someone this. Your parents, teachers, or someone who can help you get more time for your wants.
The second question really doesn't have an exact answer. People don't care because either they just aren't motivated to do well in life or they don't have a homelife where their parents support them and push them to doing well. I think it has very much to do with that, things at home. If they know they can get away with D's and F's, they'll do it so they get all the time they want 24/7. Which isn't smart at all.
-TheTeenGirl
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