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Boyfriend's Uncle
Okay, so I have a bit of an odd situation... that's slightly complicated, at best.
I'm 20, female, and in a long distance relationship with a guy on the other side of the planet who is 17. Big distance there, as you well know.
Anyhow, I talked to his step mum's brother for the first time today, and he kind of halfway hit on me. He's about fifteen years older than I am. It was a little awkward because he's so much older, and I'm a relationship with his step nephew. The thing is, most of my bf's family doesn't know that he and I are in a relationship, his step uncle included. Do I tell him about being hit on by the guy, or do I keep it quiet and only give vague details? I'm completely at a loss at what to do with this one. I'm usually the one to come up with the relationship advice, but with this situation... I honestly don't know. He didn't come out and say a whole lot or anything, so it wasn't a huge deal, but still. To tell all or to keep it vague.
Any words of wisdom out there for me?
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Keep it to yourself.
After one meeting it doesn't seem right to get your panties in a knot about being 'halfway hit on'. If you meet him agian maybe you'll be able to make a clearer observation about this guys normal habits and style.
He could have just been being friendly or could just be the kind of person who flirts with everyone and anyone. Maybe he was flirting with you a bit, but despite the age difference, you are all adults here right? This isn't really something you need to run home and tell the boyfriend about, at least not at this point.
"Keeping it vague" is a good way to cause your boyfriend undue stress and confusion. Telling it all might blow it out of purportion. My advice is to wait and see what happens, and if possible, deal with it by yourself if it becomes an issue when next you see him. A nice clear "Not Interested." is a far more logical response then upseting your boyfriend and making things awkward if they don't really need to be.
It's not his uncle knew you were seeing someone, let alone his newphew. He did nothing wrong. No need to cause drama when you can simply ask him to back off.
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Hi.
Firstly I've been there with long distance relationships myself and will say good luck to you and this guy. It can work. :)
As for the situation, I am actually curious about one thing in particular - why has he kept you a secret? Surely him being as old as he is should mean he can go out with or be involved with anyone he pleases (and if the legal age of consent where he is happens to be 18+ it's not like you both can do anything given how far you both are from each other). So, why has he not told anyone? :/ Personally I think it might just be a good idea to tell him the truth. That way there would be no problems later on even if you feel it's nothing major. With guys the smallest thing can be a big deal and last thing you need is his uncle saying something to him and him then confronting you about it and thinking you hid details from him (even if they were small and not a big deal). Guys can easily make a small thing into a huge deal, lol.
At the end of the day he has no-one he can be mad or angry at. His uncle doesn't know him and you are involved and you told him what happened so everything should be okay. If afterwards he feels he needs to do something about it he can kindly ask his uncle to back off hitting on his 'friends' and leave it there - problem solved.
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I think you should talk to your boyfriend about it.
He knows the uncle more than you and he'll tell you how to deal with this.
He won't get mad, if he does it'll only be at his uncle.
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