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My boyfriend is being a jerk
My boyfriend is being ajerk. i really care about him but i think he might be getting tired of me. we have a four day weekend this weekend and i left for california. all week before i asked him again and again to call me, just because i knew i was going to go nuts being caught with my family that long. he hasn't called once so far. we may stay longer than we originally planed which would mean i would miss some school. he'll notice if i'm not there. i'm really tempted not to tell him that i'm not going to be there, and instead tell his friend whom i think has a crush on me, and i think he knows it. i really care about him, but it's really making me mad that he hasn't called. i don't know if i should aggrivate the situation by involving the other guy.
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Why not just call your boyfriend yourself? It's possible he's been too busy. Think about it, there must be a time in your life when you were insanely busy for three days straight. It's also very likely that he HAS been calling you but the call hasn't gone through, especially if California is far from where you live.
Don't aggrevate the situation by involving another guy. Talk to your boyfriend and see what's up. At the same time there wouldn't be anything wrong with calling another friend of yours to say hello. That would keep you from going nuts too, right?
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Involving the other guy just to get a shot in at your jerk boyfriend isn't fair to the other guy. Don't use him like that - he's done nothing wrong.
If this is the only "jerkish" thing that your boyfriend has done lately, I'd cut him some slack. It's a little thoughtless, sure, but it's not really THAT bad. And frankly, if I were him, I might be thinking, "She can't go for four days without me calling her? Damn, talk about clingy! I'm not sure I can handle a relationship where the girl is so needy... I'd better back off before she starts expecting me to call every night."
Now, if this is one of many things he's been doing lately that makes you question his feelings for you, then it's time for the two of you to have a talk about it. Sometimes, guys honestly don't notice when they're becoming distant or distracted, and they just need a gentle reminder not to take you for granted.
Of course, it's also possible that he really IS growing bored with the relationship, in which case you still need to have a talk about whether it needs revitalizing, or ending. And if it does end, make sure you don't go running to his friend with the crush on you for the wrong reasons.
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Aggravating the situation will only make matters worse. I wouldn't do it.
However, I would call him and tell him you may be longer and miss some school. Then, while you have him on the phone, ask him when he had planned to ever call. It could be that he got caught up and hasn't had a chance to call. You never know, so until you DO know, don't assume.
Hell, anything could have happened. Maybe a family member got sick or hurt and is in the hospital. That's why you can't just assume the worst.
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