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please help- and be honest.
i met a guy one night and we have talked since. we are really sexually active but havent quite had actaul sex yet but we always talk about it. but everytime we see each other all we do is like everything with each other but i told him im not sure about sex yet- idk what i should do cause i really like him and like playing around with him but i know if i have sex with him then i will probably get emotionally attached to him. so what should i do? and is what im doing totally sluttish since we're not dating or anything and i like still make out with other guys?
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i dont think what your doing is slutty at all its perfectly fine as long as your not like sleeping around with a diffrent guy like everyday, your not a slut
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i personally dont think there is anyrhing wrong with what your doing. its ok to have a physical connection with someone. i also think that you dont sound ready to have sex with him and in not doing so you feel like you have more control. so i say keep having fun and dont do anything that your not completely comfortable with
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You're probably not going to like what I'm about to say, but you said to be honest & whether you said that or not; honesty is what you were going to get. So I'd accept it. This is your warning!
Anyways, what you're doing does seem a tad skanky to me. But everyone is different & everyone has a different outlook on what is considered slutty & what isn't. In my eyes, since you're not dating any of these guys [the ones you makeout with & this guy you're doing things with], it seems a little trashy to just hop around from guy to guy & be all over them. Doing that will earn you a bad rep amongst the genders. Girls will think you're a whore & won't like you. Guys won't want to date you because they'll think you're a cheater & can't commit. Either that, or they'll just use you for what they want & then dump your ass.
If you really like this guy, then you need to see where he wants to take this relationship. If he says he doesn't see it being anything more than friends with benefits, then I suggest you backout & stop having any type of relation with this guy. Friends with benefits always ends in someone getting hurt, and I can tell you now that it's usually NOT the guy.
In all honesty though, if you know you're not ready to have sex [which you obviously aren't because you're asking complete strangers what to do] then you probably shouldn't.
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First off, you can date all the guys you want as long as you aren't committed and it isn't being a slut.
As for the sex, it sounds to me like you aren't ready for that step. Yes, we women tend to get emotionally attached after we allow a man to have our bodies.
Wait until you know you are ready. Don't do it just because you think you should while all caught up in the moment. Do it because you know you want to, and you are ready to make that big step.
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