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no confidence.
My friends (who are girls) tell me I'm pretty, but I've never had a guy come up to me and tell me I'm hot. I really hate it because they'll flirt with ugly girls, and I get no attention from guys. I really hate myself because of it. I'll never get a boyfriend and I've never had a real one either. Also, I want to go to homecoming but no guy will want to dance with me. What do I do?
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That question pretty much sums up my entire life as a student thus far. I feel for you as well. Okay, but heres what I've learned so far. If you've atleast got some looks, use them! Approach the guys first, be extra flirty! Ask a guy to dance, ask him to hang out, just try it. If he says no, brush it off and find a new cutie. Boys were basically put on this planet to give girls stress, heartaches, the best times of their lives, and their worst. So just keep in mind, they're just boys. So suck it up, find some confidence, and just have fun! You're way more likely to get a dance partner if you look like you're having a good time :]
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thats not true. if your pretty and nice someone is bound to ask you! you shouldnt hate yourself!! you sound like you have GREAT friends and stuff like that is the only thing that matters. you have the rest of your life for guys!! Enjoy life!!
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What a guy thinks and what he says are two different things. Just because they don't say you're pretty doesn't mean that you aren't or that they aren't thinking it.
Also, it's not necessarily the guy who can approach you, so you don't have to wait and be upset at not being pretty enough or whatever. The truth is, it's not the pretty girls that get the guys, but the girls that are the most approachable. The best way to meet guys is to join a club, or just hang out in the halls after school saying hi to people you semi-know, or even people you don't know, and start conversations. You can ask to get to know friends that are guys that your friends may know, or be introduced to them. Even though it's usually seen as the guy who makes the first move, gender roles are changing, and as well, in most cases, it is the girl that starts by showing she's interested. It isn't very hard. Just convince yourself that you are an amazing person in your own way when you enter the room, smile, and be yourself. If there are guys around, show in a casual way that you are interested in getting to know them better if they wish, just by the way you act around them. Be nice to guys. They don't really have the confidence to tell girls they are pretty to their faces in most cases, at least until they have some sense that the girl likes them back. So make some guy friends. Tease your guy friends/ acquaintances and be playful with them. Act like you don't need a guy but if you act like you are interested in them (listen to them, tease them, laugh at their jokes/ crack jokes, be yourself) they will gain interest in you.
Remember that it's not all about getting attention for attention's sake. The real way to get confidence is to get it by, instead of seeking out the appreciation of others, learning to appreciate yourself. Figure out what you love to do and do it. Overall just tell yourself that you are worthwhile, and learn to love who you are.
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