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first time sex
i think i am about ready to have sex with my boyfriend for the first time. it will be both of our firsts and i am a little bit nervous about little things during this sex like if i get pregnant or just something bad happening! is it normal to be nervous and is there any little tips i need to know before doing this? and can someone please explain how the process goes like does he get a little hard then put the condom on? or how does that work?
thanks <3
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You are nervous because you are not ready.
You dont know enough.
Try this website
www.coolnurse.com
Its a decent medical resource that gives all kinds of good information about things like pregnancy, condoms and contraceptives, etc.
After reading most of that website, wait a year.
Seriously though, learn more before you take a step like having sex. Particularly, Im worried about you saying this.
"I am a little bit nervous about little things during sex like if I get pregnant"
Getting pregnant is not little. It will change the course of your entire life. Not only that, but you who are definitely NOT ready to be a mother, and provide a suitable role model and a house and a life for a child, do not need to bring a child into that. Its unfair to the kid if you have them when you cant take care of them on your own.
This is why I say you arent ready. You are not yet old enough to truly understand the gravity of the consequences and to know how much you should be paying attention to prevent them. You dont know that you should be well informed before you have sex. You arent old enough to understand why its so important.
Im sorry, Im hacking on your age. I dont mean to belittle you. Im sure you hear things like that all the time. The best way to describe it, is that the longer you live the better you understand the concept of larger amounts of time. When you have lived 20, 30, 40 years you understand the amount of time those time periods are. You have lived through that amount of time and so you can see all the things that happen during those spans.
When you are 13-14 you cant understand the concept of something that can alter the next 35-50 years of your life. You havent lived long enough to be able to relate to spans of time that long.
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Hey,
If you're nervous, just make sure you know what to do if things do go wrong.
Three things you can do in terms of "protection":
Spermicide (probably available at a chemist, very likely avail at an adult store, however I don't know how old you are, so you may not want to try going there. This is additional safety that kills anything that comes from a burst or leaking condom.
Condoms: They're not hard to use, but there are a few things to watch out for. By the time you, or he get around to putting it on, his penis should already be erect. Magic!. They roll only one way. If you look at the rolled condom, one side will go down a bit, and the other side will just be flat. The flat side will be the one which goes down on the tip of his penis. It won't roll the other way, so you'll know if you've got it wrong. When you/him are fitting it, make sure that there is no air left in the tip, once it is a little way unrolled on his penis. This creates a high tension area, which pops around and can cause damage and bursting of condoms. When the air is gone (expel carefully), unroll to the base of the penis.
The third thing, is for if you know that the condom has burst. You would need to go see a GP, and ask them to prescribe you an oral contraceptive, commonly known as "morning after" pill. It would tinker with your hormones, in order to make you infertile temporarily (no pregnancy).
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Before having sex, you should be well informed on the topic. Yes, there are risks. Yes, you could get pregnant. If you choose to have sex, do whatever you can to make it safe. Use protection. Don't have sex in water, because it could break the condom, etc. As far as the process goes, there's no point in explaining it. Yes, he gets hard and then you put the condom on. As for the rest of it, it will just happen. All of that being said, if you are nervous, you should wait. If you and your boyfriend really love each other, you have all the time in the world to make that decision when you really want to. Loosing your verginity is a huge deal. If you are at all unsure, give it time.
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Helllo !
Well i've never had sex and i'm sure everyone gets nervous for the first time lmao so RELAX xD,make sure you use protection and you'll be fine promise and i think yeh thats how it goes it goes hard then he puts it on.
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