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Bad Boyfriend and Pregnancy
I am in need of guidance. I have one child that is seven months old and my doctors put me on the lowest hormone dosage birth control because I'm breastfeeding, but I'm pregnant again. I don't know what to do. I didn't miss any pills and I've been on the pills for about 4 months now. I can't afford another child and while the father and I are together, I'm not planning on staying with him because he isn't reliable and won't share the responsibilities of parenthood. I'm 24 and completely lost as to what to do. I really need advice. I just can't bring myself to talk to my family about this. Please help.
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I, too, am pregnant and have a 7 month old son. I understand your worries of how to be able to afford another child, especially so soon. Plus, one infant takes up a lot of time, let alone a 1 year old and a newborn. (My son will be 13 months when the next one is born...)
I totally understand that accidents such as this DO happen. Personally, I figure it was meant to be, so I will make it work.
The big difference is, I'm lucky enough to be married to a wonderful, supportive man who shares in all of the parenting responsibilities.
If you are unhappy with this guy, I don't ever think it is wise to stay together "for the sake of the children." If the parents are unhappy with each other, the children pick up on that, and they, too, are unhappy.
I strongly advise you go to your family with your problem. Surely they will help you in your situation and help you to decide what is the best thing to do.
Right now, you NEED the support of your family, so hard as it may be, you need to talk to them.
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This is really complicated the only way is for you is to go to the doctor so he can give you a pill to stop you from being pregnant if it's not too late but Iam not the one to make that big decision you are to make it,or you have to be able to be strong,have the baby,you need support on this,help too you're family is going to have to find out that you're carrying a baby,it's better to let them know then later because things could get worse,who knows they might even be very supportive or understand that things just happen,that it wasn't your fault.The choice is yours.
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Well, you obviously need to talk to your parents, I don't honeslty understand, how you can be so...unintelligent? I mean really, you would have thought that you would have learned from your mistake the first time. If you were only sixteen years old or something, MAYBE i would have been a little more sympathetic. However, you are 24 years old. You are an adult. You shouldn't be having sex with a guy that you know cannot support you, if you do become pregnant. Pills arn't 100% protective either. Go make your boyfriend get a job, tell your parents, and support these two innocent babies the best way you can.
I don't think you should get an abortion. its your responsiblity. you did this, & you deserve to work your ass off for the rest of your life.
If you really want to get an adoption, I suppose you could do that. But, I could never do that. I mean jus think, when your little kid gets stung by a bee, you cant be there. there fake mom or dad will. and yeah. just whatever.
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Well, talking to your family is the best thing to do, I'm sorry to say. But, if you can't bring yourself to talk to one of them- or your boyfriend- talk to your doctor. Explain to him your situation, and your options. Adoption is always an option. Abortion is always an option.
I'm terribly sorry for you; I wish I could help more.
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