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cousin.. and ex boyfriend.. HELP!
alright, so my Ex boyfriend, ( well call him rob) cheated on me with my cousin (well call her jen) and then my ex rob broke up with me on the 12th of auguest but he started going out with jen on the 8th.. and i told her that and she doesnt seem it mind i guess.. but a couple days ago rob IMed me and was like i hope we can still be friends and i said of course and he randomly asked me do i miss sex and i said well yah and he said he did to and he just went on about how much sex was fun with me and crap like that and if i would he would do it again and he wants me to like spend the night at his house but pretend im going there to hang out with his sister.. and he said a lot more stuff like that. if i was still going out with rob and he said that kinda stuff to some girl i would want the girl to tell me.. but this girl happens to be my cousin.. and im stuck like i think i should tell her.. but if i do that im going to lose my friendship with rob and i really dont want to. and if i dont tell her.. im going to feel kinda guilty , but she did it to me and she didnt care.. so i dont know why i care, shouldnt i just let it be and not say anything to her?? im so confused.. what do you think i should do??
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Please don't mess around with this scum bag. You are only a piece of ass to him. I would hold such a boy in less esteem then I would a maggot.
Tell him to go fuck himself. Please.
I don't think you 'owe' your cousin the truth. She helped him to cheat on you so she should already knows that is the kind of guy he is. You could tell her if you like. That would be the nice thing to do, although she likely wont believe you. That's alright, don't argue with her about it. If you are going to tell her, just tell her, and then back down. Let her believe what she likes.
The only thing you really need to do though is stop talking to your scum bag ex. It isn't right for him to saying those things to you, so it would be best if you stopped speaking to him.
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Number 1, don't do it. It doesn't seem like you were going to, but just to make sure, don't do it!
If he doesn't cheat with you he's going to keep trying with different girls until someone will have sex with him. Your cousin did a very terrible thing by having sex with him while he was going out with you. Even if you have negative feelings for her because of this, you should be the bigger person here. It will hurt her so much (in a way she deserves) if you tell her. Forgetting the fact that him trying to cheat on her would hurt, but YOU being the one telling her about it after she cheated with him on you would be very powerful. It would really hit home for her.
Now, I don't think that you should just go running to tell her. Give Rob a chance first. That is the respectful thing to do since Rob is your friend. Your friendship with him probably won't work after this, or it will at least be awkward, but think about it. It's not going to work anyway if he keeps asking you for sex, which he will. It's not much of a friendship even now. Tell him that if he doesn't tell her in 5 days that you are going to tell her. If he tells you that he told her, make sure he isn't lying.
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If this boy right now is dating your cousin. And he is only talking about sex, it's really loud and clear. He wants sex, and she wont give it to him so he went running back to you for it. You're just starting a war with your cousin doing that.
I think you should drop him, no matter how hard it is because you know hes dating her and not you. He left you for her. So why is he asking for sex from you after ditching you? He sounds like bad news. Drop him, and move on. Or this whole dillema will hurt more.
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