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family problems
my family is currently living with my grandma. Not only does she treats us unfair, she also makes my mom pays 4 all the expenses in the house, plus the money for living in her house. So while we have to struggle to live our lives, she has extra money in her pocket and spends it elsewhere. Well, the problem is, im going 2 go 2 college soon, and i need to think bout the financial problem. i want to tell my mom to stop giving her the extra money and just pay for the current expenses only. That way, she will be able to help me somewhat in the future.
But we dont know how to confront my grandma about it. My mom doesn't want to upset her mother, either.
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If your family are having to live with your grandma, then you
will probably have to get through college
as best you can on your own
with minimal help from your mom.
Look into Pell Grants or some other way to
help pay your way through college. If you
are determined you will find there are many
ways to get a college education. Start doing
some research now & talk to your schools
guidance counselor about it too.
I agree with one who answered earlier.
You can't expect to live with grandma for
nothing. She has gone from being able to do
her own thing to suddenly having company 24/7.
Her budget probably doesn't allow for the extra people
now staying with her. Try to see it from her
point of view a little and be understanding. :)
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Would you e able to just sit down and talk to her nicely ? Just tell her how hard it is and how you need the money to go to college.Ask her for help.Just simply talk to her , she's a human too , she has a heart.Just talk to her.She's your grandmother she loves you and care's about you.
Also ask her if she could lower the price's she's charging your mother , so she could help you out too.Hope I helped !!
-Stephii
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Your grandmother is allowing your mother, yourself and a few others to live in her home. It doesn't sound as though you are grateful for this. She has every right to charge rent to your mother and also for cable, ultilities and other expenses.
She cannot pay for this on her own. If you are living in her house and using her resources from cable, water, heat. washer/dryer, fridge and electricity she has every right to charge you for it so she can live comfortably and pay her own bills off.
Taking you guys in was a loving gesture that I'm sure burdens her financially. Thus far, from your question I cannot see where either you nor your mother have been treated badly. If it were any other person you would be paying much more in rent and other fees.
As far as college goes you will need to make contact with the school's financial aid department and tell them what your situation is and get a loan from them or a bank. In the meantime, you can help matters by getting a job where you work after school, weekends or nights. It doesn't pay much but it helps if you start saving.
Your mother nor yourself (judging from this question) really have no reason to confront your grandmother. Perhaps, if you talk to her nicely about college she'll have answers on how to support you through it or ideas.
Confront her about anything at all and you won't get anywhere. A confrontation only serves to get people angry at you. It would then give her reason to raise rents and or ask you to leave or not help with college or anything.
The woman owes none of you a darn thing really. Think of the hardship on her for taking you in. Neither side is truly content about any of this but you both seem to be seeing things from your side and not that of grandma's.
if something truly is wrong at home find someone to mediate between your mother and her that both trust and is inpartial and let the adults figure it out without all the anger. But, you really haven't shown me/us much of anything to suggest this woman has acted badly against you or your mom.
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