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I made a huge mistake...
I have been dating my girlfriend for two years in October. She is the most amazing girl i have ever met and about 7 months ago i gave her a promise ring and i know she is the girl i want to spend the rest of my life with. Sometimes we get into little fights and blow them way out of proportion. About a month ago we had one of these fights and she wouldn't come to a party with me that night. At that party, i got pretty drunk and slept with a girl from another school. I didn't tell her about it and everything seemed like it was fine until this girl i slept with showed up at my baseball game and just so happens to sit down next to my girl friend and her best friend without knowing it was them. They start talking and pretty soon Becca, the girl from the party, has to go so she asks my girl friend if she could give me a ring back that i had left at her house (the promise rings we gave each other) of course my girlfriend gets curious why this girl has my ring and so she asks becca about it and she told her the whole thing. After the game my girlfriend brought the ring up to me and said that my "little friend Becca" thought i would want it back and asked her to give it to me. I was totallly shocked and had no idea even what to say. She broke it off right then and there. I need to find some way to make it up to her. She is the love of my life and i totally regret what i did but she won't even talk to me which is really awkward since i am at her house all the time since her brothers are my best friends and her dad is my football coach. How can i get her back?
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Explain EVERYTHING to her -- & she finds it out from someone else, she`ll get mad all over again. Tell her something along the lines of this, "Look, I know you shouldn`t want to talk to me & I know you probably don`t care what I`m saying right now, but I`m gonna explain it to you anyways. I know I was an idiot and if I were you, I would be mad too. In fact, I probably would have done exactly what you did. I was drunk and I didn`t know what I was doing -- it won`t ever happen again. I don`t care about her, I care about you. I swear to you...I would never intentionally hurt you, you have to trust me on that if you haven`t believed any other word I said. I`m so sorry. If I could take it back, believe me, I would. I love you so much though, I can`t even put it into words how much I love you. I`m so sorry, I`ll do anything -- just please forgive me." If she won`t listen to that, write it on a note & tell her brothers to give it to her. Call her & leave a message on her phone or you can just e-mail it to her. Ooh, or you can just type/write it & put it in an envelope, leave it on her porch, & buy her a very, very nice gift with roses & chocolate or something. I`d go for the last one if I were you though. =]
Good luck!
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wow, wat a story.. well, there's really only one thing you can do and that's to ask her if you could talk 2 her one on one and explain the whole thing to her.. don't just tell her wat happened, tell her how you really feel about her and if it was just a big mistake and you love her like you say you do and she really loves you she may be willing to work something out.. well maybe... it may take her awhile because whether it was a mistake or not, it's gonna really hurt her and she's gonna need some time to heal. all you can do is give it your all and hope for the best. hope everything works out for you and her!! if so, write back and tell me how everything went!!!!! hope i helped =)
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ooooh mann. so you have promise rings with both of them?
things you could do [not gonna guarentee that any of this will work since what you did was VERY wrong]:
-write her a letter and explain things to her
-break off all communication with becca
-don't talk to other girls
-send her flowers
-give her a picture of you guys with a message on the back
-find a way to talk to her
-try to become friends again & win back her trust
-make promises you can keep
-don't bring up sex... not gonna happen for a long time
-show you are truly sorry
-talk to her brothers about it... like what she wants and stuff and if she misses you at all. <3
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Wow that's tough. But you sound really sincere and you are trying to get her to believe that too. Which also can be hard sometimes; unless you're smart. Try to write her a letter. This way, neither of you guys will have to confront eachother face to face until you're ready. Pour your heart into it. Let her actually feel the emotions your feeling..Let her believe the words you're telling... Don't give up when she ignores you. If that girl means THAT much to you and after all that time together..You guys have something alot of people can never have. Giving it all away will be a waste. I have been in her position and yes, it sucks..And it really..Literally..Hurts. If you need anything else you can just come back and ask. I really wish you both of luck with this. I really do. I have faith in you :]
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Oh man, what a tough situation. I'm kind of in the same one with my friend. The best thing is to do is tell her exactly EVERYTHING that you feel right now. Even if you write it down, make sure she knows exactly what you feel. She'll still be mad and ignore and bitchy to you, but you have to let her know what you really feel. Tell her that you're so sorry and you don't know why you did it, and if you could take it back you could. You never meant to hurt her, even though you know that you did. You didn't want to tell her because she's the one girl that you know that you love, and if you lost her you don't know what you'd do without her. After you tell her, just give her some time. Don't push her to talk to you or bug her or call her constantly. She needs time to think of what she wants to do. If she doesn't talk to you within a week or two, maybe try calling her and ask her what she thinks, and then say what you feel again. It'll be tough and I can promise you that it'll be hard to forgive you, even though you didn't mean to do it. Good luck<3
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Well first off, she needs some time to cool off. If you're all up in her face after it happened, and ranting to her brothers about it she'll never give you a chance. So when you're at home and NOT at her house call her up, and leave a voice message for her. The best thing to do first is to admit you were wrong for doing that, & on a side note DON'T blame it all on drinking,you should know you're responsible for your own actions, she knows it and any girl would know it. Also,add in a little MORE emotion by saying that you're not the same without her, and how it would be like without her. And be COMPLETLEY HONEST, don't leave stuff out, (that still is considered lying) there is NOTHING a girl hates the most than to be lied to. And after that, take a breather and take a break from going to her house (even though her brothers are your best friends) for awhile until SHE comes to you.
During that time period, she IS thinking about you, not doubt about it and she still loves you. She just needs time to cool off from it all. While you're taking time from her, and waiting, try buying her a gift (it doesn't have to be expensive) just let it come straight from the heart. And leave it on her doorstep or have it delivered to her. Or to stay on her familys good side ESPECIALLY her dad try talking to her dad or send him a gift too and apologize (only if you mean it).
And when she does decide to talk to you (which I'm sure she will she can't just leave it after 2 yrs?!), be ready to communicate with her and be honest and let her know what has been on your mind the past couple days without her and ask her about her concerns about the situation. Let her talk, and just LISTEN thats the best thing you can do. Show her you care, but DON'T go overboard like on your knees like , she laugh in your face.
NEVER repeat what you did to her or cheat on her, you don't have to say blah and "I'll never do it again" your actions, NOT doing it, is the key. ACTIONS do speak LOUDER than words. So SHOW HER that you've changed and be the guy that shes always loved.
These are the BEST strategies you can do to win her back, but it's no gaurantee it will happen. Some girls when they get cheated on (esp. if you've slept with another girl) they're gonna move on. It'll take them awhile, cause they will still think about you but they will move on some faster than others. And some girls say "Once a cheater always a cheater" , try to prove these girls wrong. And if a relationship can go on for a good 2 yrs. maybe she'll give you some leeway and a 2nd chance, once that 2nd chance is granted STAY WITH IT, don't do it again. Everyone deserves 2nd chances but 3rd and 4ths are not possible. So prove you DESERVE this sexond chance to her. Sorry so long and hope this helps!
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