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Long story
Well im going to try and sum this up as best as I can.
So i guess you could say I had a "summer fling"
it was more like a "sex fest".
But he was still my very good friend and we talked all the time.
I have liked him for sooo long ,like about 2 years.
Just recently,since we are kind of like "fuck buddies" if you'd say ,well we were scared that he got me pregnant,because the condom broke ,and i was very very scared.
I recently got a test and it was negative,thank god because I am very young,but it was deffinetly deffinetly a BIG TIME scare.Ofcourse,he was kind of mean about it and even if i was pregnant ,he wouldnt care [yes i realize hes a jerk]
But I do love him because I know deep down hes not,but he said something about "never having sex again" which was fine with me because of this scare and we learned our lessons but i said if we could still be friends and he said "yeah" and he said he wasnt going to hate me or anything.
So ,i figured that was fine.But ever since that,he didnt really say much online.
Usually he talks alot alot more and he honestly barely talked,i mean maybe it was just because he was busy or tired or something But im not sure.
I think yes he was using me for sex ,but i know he's my friend.I just want to get over him completely and like someone new but its been so long and Im not used to not seeing him everynight like we used to.
Can someone help me here?
Im not a slut,hes the only guy I ever have done anything with.
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Life sucks doesn't it? The good thing is time really helps out. Yes, you have to do new things and reposition your life. Take it one day at a time. It's funny I was reading your question and you stated that, "I think yes he was using me, but I know he's my friend." That's impossible! Do you use your friends? Sweetheart he is doing you a favor by staying away; it gives you space to reflect and move on with your life. Nothing good can come out of this except for more sex. Life is more than sex. You said it yourself, he's a jerk, he's using me, he was mean about it. There is no deep down; he is showing you who he is, but you refuse to see him. You want to believe so bad that he is a good person and that he doesn't mean to be a jerk, but in all honesty he is what he is.
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OMG, you are so lucky that you are not pregnant. I hope you mean it when you say that you are not going to put yourself in this situation again.
And because of the way he acted, mean and all, I would not want to be his friend again. He is what we call, (us old people) "A Fair Weather Friend." They are happy to be your friend when everything is going well, and not interested when things go wrong. And he is just as much to blame as you are.
Listen he was mean because he didn't want to deal with the responsibility. What if it turned out that you were pregnant. He would have gotten downright angry and blamed everything on you. And his parents would believe him, because they wouldn't want to believe that their precious boy could do anything wrong. You and your parents would be stuck holding the bag. (so to speak)
He is not worth loving, he is not worth your kindness, he is not worth another second of your time. I know you say that you were used to seeing him and talking to him every night. Well honey, people in Africa were used to eating every day, and now they are starving.(Now THAT's hard to get used too.)
I think you can find a way to forget him. He is not and never was a "friend" in any sense of the word.
Find another friend. And if you are going to continue to have sexual relations, get on the pill. because as you have learned, you can't always rely on condoms. Hey, I am glad that you are at least using condoms, but they are not 100% effective. If you are too young to go to the doctor and get on the pill, then wait to have sexual relations, until you are old enough to do that.
This is a problem that too many of us women bring on ourselves. We "know" the guy is a jerk, yet we think that somewhere deep inside, he's a nice guy, and we still love him. Judge him by his actions, not by what he says, and not by the past. His reaction to your getting pregnant showed you how he would react when life gets difficult. Well, here's a clue. Life does get difficult. For everyone. Can't avoid it. It will happen to you too, and you need to have by your side, a man you can count on. Learn this lesson now, and you will save yourself a whole lot of heart ache.
I know I sound hard, but I am on your side. Consider this a lesson that you learned and learn it well. I wish you all the best
Michele
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getting over him is going to be hard to do. since he was your first and you say you do love him its going to take a long time. have alot of girls night outs. go to the mall, beach, movies etc. whenever your starting to think about him just call one of your friends up and it should take your mind off him. go places where a lot of guys go and mabye youll meet someone new, someone better for you. hope this helped.
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