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interacting with ppl
this sounds kind of weird but when people say stuff to me i never know what to say back. i read in a magazine that the best way to talk to some one is ask them questions, but i tryed that and i eventually felt like i was interviewing them or something and it was really awkward. like..what are some funny things. or just things in general to say to people when they say something funny to me?> like i know it depends on the situation, but i need good comebacks. like lines lol. any effort is appreciated :)
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Interacting with other people can be difficult becuase your not sure what to say and you don't want to make a fool of yourself. When you talk to people, you need to ask them simple questions like how are you and anything new happening? Be smooth and ask for there name. As the conversation progresses, ask for some other stuff like what kind of hobbies they like. You asked that you need good comebacks and lines, however, it comes from the person. You can't steal other peopel's comebacks or lines! It's a natural thing. The more time you spend talking to people, the better you will feel comfortable with them and show yourself. Your comebacks and lines will come natural and will appear when you feel comfortable with yourself.
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I can't give you any specific lines because good converation is about 'going with the flow', you just have to be relaxed and confident and go wherever the conversation leads you. There are no rules really.
It's like teaching someone to dance- you may be able to show some general steps, but it's really more about just being confident, feeling the music and letting the music tell you what to do.
But one thing you CAN do is observe someone who you think is a good talker. Listen to what they do and get some ideas. You don't want to copy them exactly, but just see how they interact. You may get some good pointers.
Last but not least, practice! Even if it's with your family. Start talking more and you'll get better- it's just like everything else you have to practice. So that means less texting and emails and more speaking! You'll get the hang of it. =)
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Oh I know exactly how you feel. I'm extremely shy, and sometimes feel like I don't know how to carry on a conversation! I swear people thought I was mute as a kid.
I've mostly figured out how to get over my shyness, and my awkwardness at conversation, although I'm still not very good with meeting new people. Basically, I use questions to get the other person talking, and then comment on what they say, or tell them something about myself that relates to what they're saying (ex. Them: "I love pickles!" Me: "Ew! I hate them! I find them disgusting"). Or if the conversation dies, just say the most random thing that comes to mind. It's usually funny, it will get the other person laughing, and break the silence.
As for funny/witty comebacks, or responding to a joke, it's all personal. A laugh is always good, and saying something random is always funny. I hate to say it, but it really does depend on the situation!
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Hahaha. You're shy. No worries. Me and my best friend Danny are really outgoing, so when we're stuck in akward conversations we'll be like
"DAAAAANG. THIS IS THE BEST CONVERSATION EVER." Or we'll just act like idiots. Bring a friend. Friends rule.
Danny and I are like always together. I swear he lives at my house, but aaanyywayy, you shouldn't ask too many questions because yeah, you'll look weird, but just try going into detail for something. Or, just be honest, say what's on your mind, be a little sarcastic.
"Hey, let's pretend this isn't akward. haha." I dunno, tis what I do. You may have a different approach, kiddo.
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