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Parents going too far!
my parents are literally forcing me to go places I don't want to go and do things I don't want to do. All the time. 24/7. I am seriously getting sick of it. My sister doesn't have to go anywhere she doesn't want to only because she doesn't want to.
Like now, for example. My family JUST got back from tubing in this river which was supposed to be only one hour long, but turned out to be six hours. Then we went to a family reunion which was seriously boring because I sat in the same place for 4 or 5 hours doing nothing.
And now, I am FORCED to get up early and FORCED to go to a water park all day with cousins that I don't even like, and FORCED to spend the night with them. No options.
What I'm trying to ask is, can my parents just take complete control over my life like that and force me to do whatever they want me to do? And also, what can I say to my parents to get out of the water park tomorrow?
They are seriously wasting my time... It's getting so old. Please help me!
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On the one hand, talk to them. Tell them you want to do some of your own things.
On the other hand, nothing they have "forced" you to do is really that bad. In fact, I would love to have people telling me "You have to go tubing with us, and then to a waterpark tomorrow"
But thats just me.
It also sounds to me like this is not 24/7. You only provided recent examples, I think perhaps you are blowing this a bit out of proportion. Talk to them. See what comes of it.
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UMMM WOW!! noone would ever have to force ME to go to a waterpark!! I wouldnt care who its with!!
But about your situation, make the best of it. Your mom and dad just think they are doing whats best. Thats just what they do! and do you just tell them that you dont want to go, or do you give them a good reason other that OH WELL I JUST DONT WANT TO GO!!!
I wish I had your problems!!
sit them down alone and talk to them. Write them a note if you cant get a word in!
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Yes... as long as you're underage and living in their house, your parents CAN take complete control of your life and force you to do things. I know it stinks, but unfortunately that's just the way it is.
Actually, even when you're in a situation you can't control, you do have two choices. You can get mad and fight and argue about it (which is probably a losing battle and will just make you even more miserable)... or you can accept the fact that you have to do it, and try to make the best of the situation.
It might help to look at things from your parents point of view. They probably aren't forcing you to do these things just to torture you. They're making you do it because they think it's important, or because it's one of those obligations that we all have to do sometimes.
Your cousins, for example. Perhaps your aunt & uncle are really wanting all of you to spend some time together, and even though your parents know you don't like it, they don't want to cause problems with their family.
And the tubing and other things your parents are making you do with them. They probably realize that it won't be long before you're off to college or moving out, and they want to spend as much time with you as they can while you're still around. So they plan things to do with you that they think might be fun.
The fact is, even once you've moved out and are on your own, there will ALWAYS be things you have to do, that you'd rather not. The sooner you can get used to that idea, and learn how to accept it, the happier you'll be. =]
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