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whenever i get a guy i push them away
i've had two guys like me this year. i've been telling myself i want a boyfriend and i know i do. i've been single for a year and a half with one sexual relationship in between. so whenever these guys tell me they like me i'll like them for a day or two and then find some reason why it wouldn't work out and then i push them away. i won't even be friends with them. what the heck is my problem? if i want a guy, and i can get a guy, then why can't i accept what's given to me?
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I think your scared of getting hurt.Its okay everyone is but you cant avoid love all around.Dont find a reason not to try. Wait for one because even if the relationship doesnt work out you will walk away with something that will help you in the long run.Whether that is a little more strength,preparation,or knowledge.Just remember this the next time your in this position,"The rollercoaster will have to eventually end but why not enjoy the ride instead of sitting on the sideline and thinking 'how much fun does that look'."
you just need to have more confidence in you then you will be much happier=]
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Alright, get a pen & pencil.
Write down all the good things you can think of them & skip over the bad things.
You might just be scared they`ll cheat on you or break up with you or something & you`ll get hurt.
That`s how alot of people are. Just before you get in a relationship, you gotta be sure you can trust them not to do any of those things. & also, try not to rush into a relationship or anything.
Good luck! =]
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Hey, it's not bad to reject a guy if you don't like them. Just because you're "given" a guy who likes you doesn't mean you should like them back, and the fact that you don't like guys solely because they like you really is a good thing.
What happens happens. It's perfectly normal and not a bad thing to be not ready to go into a particular relationship, or even if the reason for not having a bf is because you're afraid- that's not bad either. It means that you take a relationship seriously. I think everyone's a little scared of a real relationship. But when that someone comes along that you truly like, it will overpower the fear/ whatever is stopping you. For this reason I believe you should give it time and wait till you truly like someone/ something develops naturally. Don't make having a boyfriend a goal, since there are so many other things in life you could be focusing on.
That said, I think you should look into/ think about why you don't want guy friends. It's not necessary or anything to have them, but on the whole it makes the whole relationship thing easier if you can also see guys as friends as well as boyfriends... and sexual partners (that "sexual relationship" wasn't harmful in any way, was it?). Don't think about everything so seriously. Like if you think to yourself "I want a boyfriend" and start assessing all guys as relationship material it puts some strain on getting to know them, doesn't it? Just try to enjoy company with the people around you, male and female, and focus on some personal goal of yours, you know, to boost your confidence, and something will come along naturally (plus you'll be so much less desperate and sooo much more attractive that way).
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heyy dont worry about it, because i used to have the same problem. i would like a guy and want a bf really badly so i would go out with him then dump him soon after because i would stop liking him the next day.
the way i got over it was that i just kept dating him even if i found a problem with him, and i only paid attention to the good things about him.
just pick a guy you really like, and even if you decide you dont like him the next day, just stay with him for a while longer and give him a chance.
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I think maybe you are scared that things wont work out, and that you will get hurt..could this be the issue? Find the guy that you like best, and just go with it. IT also seems like maybe you dont want a boyfriend, just hook-ups.
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because maybe your just scared and dont no it. you may want a boyfriend but just dont want a relationship. you look at every little thing about them and pick it so you dont like them. give them a chance.learn to like them more and not look at every little thing. if you look at all the bright sides of it working, maybe it will work
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