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jealousy issues?
I've been going out with my boyfriend for 7 months and I love him so much, but since the beginning of our relationship, there's been problems with him flirting. I've told him 4 times with 4 different situations to tone it down or try to stop and every time it got worse. The last time I told him, nothing has come up so far. But every so often he brags to his guy friends about some hot girl he saw wearing pasties in Havasu and blah blah blah. The worst part is he says it right in front of me, no holding back. I get the whole "macho" act in front of his friends and how he "got a boner" when she wet on the pole and crap, but i don't wanna hear that kinda stuff. It's bad enough that his eyes back track when I'm talking to him and a girl with big boobs walks by. It's not just him, it's me too. I tend to overthink anything and I'm not the kind of girl that just lets thing roll off and "worry about what's happening now and not in the future". whatever. I end up thinking about these little things way too much and ending up extremely depressed. With him, it's all talk, but that's what kills me the most and it really gets to me. Sometimes I think it'sd be easier if he actually cheated on me so I wouldn't have to worry. I know that sounds awful and weird, but I don't know how to explain it. It would be really great if I could get a point of view from someone who's been in a long relationship and has gone through something similar.
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I would say try and talk to him about it but since you already did that you need to seriously think about the future. Do you really care about this guy? Is he worth all this worry? If not then dump the guy and find someone who will care about you. I know this sounds cruel but you deserve much better than a guy who is going to take you for granted and look at other girls while hes dating you.
And you are not overreacting about this flirting can be a big deal and is a very often seen problem in relationships these days.
Hope I helped =]]
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I haven't gone through something similar, and I don't believe you should be going through this either. In a long term relationship it's perfectly normal to worry about the future - that's what makes it long term, and about sweating the small stuff, sometimes it's a good thing and sometimes it's not. In your case, talking about other hot girls as obsessively as he is in front of you while you told him not to is extremely disrespectful. In a relationship you should be able to trust your partner, not expect them to cheat on you. You need a guy that, when he's around you, will make you feel special, and you shouldn't settle for anything less.
That said, how have you told him to stop? If he's into the whole macho guy thing, it's possible that you weren't loud enough. Or bold enough, whatever. It would probably be better if you had this conversation with him alone and where really vocal about how upsetting his act is to you. And speaking of his act... I hope for your sake that it is just an act. Possibly this is just something that he's always done with his friends and doesn't want to stop just because you are tagging along. If it's not, think of how he normally behaves around you. Does he listen when you talk to him? Does he support you? Does he seem to care about you at all? Believe me - it's a reasonable to expect this guy of yours to stop flirting or openly checking other girls out, especially if you guys have been together for seven months. If he doesn't, it's also reasonable to have doubts about the relationship.
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wow thats really rude. i mean what kind of sick mind says stuff like that?
It seems like your really depressed in this question.heres a question for you:
DO YOU LIKE HIM?
because half of that "looking at girls" concept IS HIS PERSONALITY. what you need to do is talk to him. and say okay (insert his name here) look! if you havent noticed, IM NO BOY! i dont like girls,i like boys..like you. but its hard to like boys like you if theyre COMPLETELY PERVERTED! so im gonna give you a choice, you can go ahead and go ask out that lady whos probably 40 right now that was humping the pole and live with that forever and never have life. or you can stay with me.
its your choice. so choose before i make the decision for you(like your gonna break up with him)
^^AND SAY THIS IN FRONT OF HIS FRIENDS
if he chooses you, just dont hang out with him. make HIM hang out with you.
WOW
hope i helped,
XOXO,
MOlly(:
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Wow, If I were you I would eaither dumb him, or tell him how unhappy you are that he talks about other girls in from of you, and that you catch his eyes wandering off even when your with him. tell him if he doesnt change you will leave him.
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