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Friends leave me out
so im friends with these kids right. and yeah.um.
they have like all these different bonfires and im NEVER invieted and i feel like shit because im not invited and its not like they dont know that im mad. i mean my away messages are always nasty when they have a party or whatever. so yeah i dont know how to like fix this problem and its bugging the hell out of me. okay thanks for the help bye.
15/f
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Well, leaving nasty away messages probably isn't going to get you invited to the next bonfire, or to anything else for that matter. Have you ever heard the saying, "You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar"? It means that people prefer being around someone who's sweet and pleasant, not someone who's sour and nasty. If you want people to like having you around, you need to stop being the vinegar and start being the honey. You want people to include you in things because they like you, because you're nice and fun to have around... right? Not because they're afraid of how mad and mean you'll be if you're left out!
And speaking of being left out... it's completely normal to feel a little sad or jealous when you aren't included in something. Everyone feels that way sometimes, because everyone gets left out of things from time to time. It's just impossible for people to do things with ALL their friends EVERY single time. But that doesn't mean they don't like the friends they aren't with at the moment.
When you're the person who's left out (as we all are sometimes), of course you're going to feel a little sad. But if you want to be invited the next time, you need to control those feelings. Keep them to yourself and don't make your friends feel bad or guilty. No one likes to be around someone who makes them feel bad. Be happy and cheerful and fun to be around, and next time they make plans, they'll want you to join them!
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Hey, I'm the same age as you and I know exactly what you mean. I haven't actually been that girl who's never been invited, but I've had some so-called friends that did that to other girls, and it just isn't fair. Real friends don't do that to each other, which is why I think you should talk to them. Really, they aren't even worth your time.
However, if you want to talk to them, that's what I'd do. And be sure to ask them why they would invite all of their friends, but you. And it just isn't fair that they do those kind of things to you, and you definitely don't deserve it. If you feel they deserve another chance, go for it. If not, I would go and find better friends. Because you really do deserve much better friends, than these.
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Either get the guts to tell them face
to face, or find new friends that will
include you because these friends arent
"friends." And since i dont know how
(in the past) how nice and trustworthy
these friends were, I would just have to
say tell them flat out because what they
are doing is pretty mean & if i were
you, i as well wouldnt like that.
And if they still are treating you like
this, get together with another group=)
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