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Partying?
Hello. I'm 14 years old and I have never gotten drunk or high. Most of the girls that I know all go out partying with boys, and I feel like such a loser because I don't do anything and they have all these guy friends and I have maybe like 3 really good guy friends who I hang out with. Is this normal? I mean how old were you people when you first got drunk? I know I'm so gay for writing this, but it really bothers me. I'm really afraid of being like 17 and staying in every weekend reading a book by myself because I have no friends. omg i know how gay this sounds i'm sorry!
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First of all stop saying "OMG THATS SO GAY" because that just makes you sound stupid. And I don't know where you live, but if it is in the United States, LEGAL DRINKING AGE IS 21! NOT 14. So those other little girls you know are BAD examples of what you want to be like. They are the ones to be teen moms. It is normal to have a few guy friends. I prefer it to having a bunch of guy friends. Guys are usually friends with girls like that for one reason: sex. They are REALLY friends, they are just hoping to get some. And I don't know about you but I would MUCH rather have one TRUE guy friend. And there is nothing wrong with being 17 and staying in and reading a book. Just find a few friends who are setting a good example (ie: NOT DRINKING at 14) and really befriend them. Thats all you need. And please stay away from alcohol until you are 21. And dont think about weed. People who do weed, are stupid and have no futures. I hope you do the right thing.
Good Luck
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I got drunk for the first time at 14. And I got high for the first time. Not long after that I was sorta "against" pot. But half a year later which I had turned 15 by the time, I started doing it A LOT. I started stealing as well. I think it was to get over my ex partially. I do it every once in a while because my current boyfriend does sometimes. I dread it every time now. I'll barely smoke any so I can keep an eye on everyone. I just don't like the feeling of it anymore, I really wish I hadn't done that or got drunk. You're aren't missing out on much besides hangovers and memory loss. Trust me I much rather stay in and read a book myself.
And as for the guys thing, I used to hang out with about the same amount of guys during school. =)
Partying young is really stupid in reality, you can get hurt in a lot of situations. I suggest you don't do it, it isn't worth it.
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When I first got drunk I was 13. Me and my friends started partying REALLY early, since we knew a lot of older people. At the age of 13, I was partying with people from the ages of 11-18. I've never gotten high, or tooken drugs and I probably never will.
There's nothing wrong with staying in on a saturday reading a book, but I think you should become more social. Don't go out every weekend, but have fun.
You can still go out and have fun and drink, but do it in moderation. It's not everything it's cracked up to be. It's a lot of fun while it lasts, but you have the after morning hangover. Also, you do a lot of stupid things while you are drunk.
Drinking at a young age causes your liver to become damaged at a much faster rate then if you were older. And getting high fries brain cells, and many other things.
So, therefore you don't need to get drunk or high to be " cool " or " have fun. "
Do what you want to do.
Hope I helped!
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Listen. Don't feel like you should get drunk and "go partying with boys" just because everyone else is doing it.
Do you realize the negative effects of underage drinking?
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Point- its dumb and idiotic to do something like that at a young age of 15 solely because other people are doing it.
Those are the people that won't make anything of their lives. Do you really want that?
Who cares if you're 17 and "staying in every weekend reading a book" by yourself. That won't happen. You're going to make friends in the next few years. I guarantee it. In school- just make small talk with classmates- and it will develop into a great friendship. Trust me.. that's how over half of my friendships now started.
And you don't sound "gay". Its normal to feel left out because you aren't doing what everyone else is doing. I've felt like that.. but you have to think about your future. Do you want to be an alcoholic with kids you won't even care about and you'll barely know your husband? Or do you want to be successful and have a great family?
The choice is yours, but please hear what I have to say!
--Jack
(15/m)
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Don't feel like a loser. You are making the right choice by avoiding drunks, alchohol, and hard partying. Going to casual parties with a few girlfriends and just like a get together that someone has set up is great. I'd definitely rather go out with some girlfriends out to eat somewhere instead of getting wasted and end up finding out that I had sex with a guy that I don't even know. It happens.. You still have some time from turning 17. You are NOT a loser and you will never be a loser. You are only doing this to benefit you and the people around you. Would you rather people call you a drunken dirty sl*t, or a nice girl? I'd take the nice girl. You don't need booze and pot to have a good time.
Hope I helped. ♥
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