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I Know He Hates Me
13/f
My printer wasn't working so I tried to fix it. My mom told me to just to rube some stuff on the ink things. Well, I didn't get what my mom was talking so I aksed her to repeat it. She said, "God, bella, your just the dumbest girl ever!" And my dad said, "Yea, no matter how many times I slapped her, she's still a stupid idiot." I feel really bad now. VERY. I'm crying cuz he hurt me so much. He's been saying things like this every since I was little. I've counted how many times he's said "I hate you." I feel really bad, espcially after what he did when Iwas little. He threw me outside and forgot me. I was outside, IN THE SNOW, until 1:00 a.m. My dad is always saying, I love you, your my baby girl, but i have this feeling that he doesn't mean it. I keep hoping my mom deviorces him. it's never gonna happen. I hate my dad now. He hurt me too many times. I want to know what to do. Plz, somebody give me advice ASAP. :'(
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I know soo how you feel about this, trust mee. Too me, I'm just guessing here, but, your dad could have a Bi-Polar disease, it's where it makes it so your happy then your sad/ticked or your depressed or your outgoing ect. My uncle has it, and one time he called my cousin an asshole but the next day he was like "i love you honey" and soon he & his wife divorced because he spent money a lot [[ which is another side effect]] and he went to the doctor and was diagnosed with Bi-Polar.
Your dad probobly does love you, but I seriously think he is Ill in that catagorey. [[not ill like sick but you know]]. A lot of kids in the world and even on this site are in the same thing you are, trust me. If i were you, since child abuse is Illegal basically, I would keep a phone or something under my pillow/in my pocket or anywhere near me at all times at home, spend a ton of time at friend's houses, and just not be around the family so much, my step brother did that and he acctually turned out fine, but as for his brother he didn't do so great and he hung around his crazy mom and mean dad. Just think up ways that will help you stay safe, and you never know, your mom could get full custody(sp) of you.
But its not healthy to stay with him if he's like that, think about it, you'll grow up either having horrible memories or if you help yourself be safe you'll grow up and be happier then you would without the safe-ness. haha, hope i helped, i really really really hope it all turns out awesome. good luck :]
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Oh, honey, that is terrible. I can't believe that your parents talk to you like that. I have never spoken to my boys that way. I know that it hurts and it hurts for years. Because that is how my mother used to talk to me. And I still hate her for it and I'm over 50 years old.
Some people just shouldn't be parents dear, but if your parents didn't become parents then you wouldn't be here. So let's cut to the chase.
I will not give you bad advice because I have been where you are and it almost ruined my life. For many years I suffered with low self-esteem because of my mother's words ringing in my head for years and years and years. I made many mistakes that I could of avoided if I had a little self respect and self love. I don't want you to make those same mistakes. The book that helped me, (because I couldn't afford therapy) was TOXIC PARENTS. It was written by Dr. Susan Forward. It has been out for many years. Get a copy. Try the library. You can get them on line at amazon.com for about $3 to $5 including shipping. Then you might want to pick up a new book out for Dr. Laura Schlessinger. Bad Childhood, Good Life, or something like that.
That book will help you to avoid the pitfalls that happen to kids who grow up with parents who constantly find fault with everything they do.
I know you are upset honey, and I know it hurts. I wish something could be done to change them, but right now you're powerless, and most people, like you know, authorities, teachers, etc, they don't like to get involved in a families personal affairs. that is as long as no one is being physically harmed. And I know, (and now you know) that words can hurt just as much.
I hope that you do take my advice, because in these books you will find the strength to overcome the things that your father, (and mother....because she doesn't do anything to stop him) says to you.
Good luck to you honey. Please feel free to leave a personal question in my in box if you want to.
Michele
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Sometimes people say things in anger that really hurt. I think that you should tell your parents how much it hurts you when they call you names and things. It may help clear the air.
If you don't feel that you can do this then please please talk to someone. Maybe a teacher at school??? If you feel that you don't want to take this step you can call Child Help USA - they have counsellors who are available 24 hours a day 365 days of the year who are willing to listen. You do not have to tell them who you are and if you call from a landline or payphone the call is free and will not show up on the phone bill. The number is 1-800-422-4453. If you call from a mobile phone then you may be charged for the call and it may show on the phone bill.
I really hope this helped and if you would like to ask me anything else at all please email me privately.
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