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My best friend likes an someone who's not good for her.
My best friend talks to this guy online from a town near ours (she met him after she started talking to him online). In short, he's horrible for her.
Why? Well, he does drugs, for one (he has pictures of him doing drugs on his MySpace, too). Not only that, he's told my friend that doing drugs isn't harmful (she knows it IS harmful) and that she should try them. He says that he uses drugs to deal with his mother's death. He's also older, so that makes me question his intentions.
She tells me that she won't go out with him, but since another guy she talked to got a girlfriend, I think she's changed her mind. He sends her cute texts and everything, and I think that's making her blind to all of his faults.
In a nutshell, I care about my friend and I KNOW she deserves better. What should I do?
Thanks in advance to all who read this and answer.
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Your friend knows you love her, and somewhere deep down she knows what you're saying is right, but she's blinded by lust, as i've told other people sometimes all you can do is point people in the right direction, books, movies, t.v. shows can all be helpful, if you tell her parent she'llmost definitely get mad at you and you may lose her trust but if nothing else works you have to tell her parents, she might be mad at you at first but eventually she'll realize you're right, and her trust for you will slowly heal, just think about would you rather a mindless druggie as a friend because this guy is going to get her hooked and then dump her, because even though your friend might think she's impenetrable to the bad influences she is talking to him isn't she and she knows what he does, everybody makes mistakes but they can't get out of them by themselves
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ok well..i know what you mean..my friend does this too..you just have to sit down and talk to her...tell her how you feel..and let her know thet you care about her and wouldnt want anything to happen to her. Say,"I don't think that you and this guy are such a good idea" tell her exactly how you think about his doing drugs is bad..let her know you care..
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First of all try and make her understand that
those who do heavy duty drugs and try to get
others involved in drugs are losers. There is
no excuse good enough to make this right.
Point out that if this guy can't deal with real
life without drugs then she is in for trouble.
People who use them to escape reality will never
love anyone as much as they do their drug. Takes
a real hard core user to put pictures of it on
a web site. If this is okay to him what other
illegal acts are ok?
If this is just a passing crush and doesn't turn
into a big deal she will be ok.
IF she ever decides she is going to date this
guy, you go to her mother, show her the website and stop it before it even starts. She will be mad, she may not want to be friends anymore.
If she starts dating this guy, you won't see much of her anymore either. If he gets her into drugs, that is the only friend she will want to be with.
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Hmm well me and you are in the EXACT same position.. and what I'm trying to do [even though I'm not certain it's helping] is that I'm trying to talk to the guy.. and find things that she's against.. like if she doesn't like a person doing drugs, you can like find evidence that he IS doing them to show her your right so she don't get hurt. You know?
Sorry If this didn't help much.
I'm trying to go through the same thing as well.
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