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Am I Ready?
Hi. I'm Female and 14 and my boyfriends 16 in october. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 months now, I know that isn't that long, but i have been thinking about having sex with him. He keeps talking to me about it and he said he doesn't want to rush me into anything i don't want to do and he will wait for me, but because he is going to be 16 soon and I am going to still be 14, he can get arrested for having sex with me. (I'm from England and the legal age for sex is 16, if anyone didn't know) He therefore said he doesn't want to have the risk of being arrested so we can either have it before october or wait until i'm 16, which is over a year. I'm stuck :( How do you know when your ready for sex? I think i am, but i aint sure... Can you be ready? I'm confused, How do you know? And can anyone help me out with my situation?
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well sorry honey -but most older guy around the age of 16 want to have sex with their girlfriends all the time- I personaly think that you are still a baby and your body is not ready for that stuff yet you are still growing everyday-he can rip you tissues in that area if your body isnt ready for it- im 14 and i havent had sex yet and Im waiting for my wedding day(i want to wear a wight dress and you only can if you are a virgin)anyway you can get pregant and he can get in some serious trouble-anywho you know you are ready to have sex when you dont have second thoughts about it!make the right choice
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Fact 1: Guys (especially teenaged guys) are always and will always be horny.
When I was in high school all the girls said guys only thought about sex and couldnt be sweet. That wasnt true. We could think about lots of things, and we could be sweet, gentlemanly, sensitive, etc. But we were still ravenously horny at the same time.
Fact 2: Given fact 1, it is not your responsibility to do anything on his timetable. Youre going to be nervous when you have sex, but you shouldnt be questioning "should I" when you do it.
There are lots of things you can do without actually having sex.
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Well if you're not sure, you may not be ready to have sex. You'll know when you are ready. In my opinion, if you really were ready you wouldn't be asking yourself or any advicenators this question. Your young, and this relationship hasn't been long enough for you to make that decision, so your best bet is to wait, cause you don't know if this guy is really worth it to lose your virginity to. And trust this, sounds crucial, but true. Some girls who have lost their virginity at this age have regretted it, because they found out that this guy wasn't really who they thought he would be. But if he is willing to wait for you and isn't pressuring you he can be that mr.right. My opinion would be for you to wait and when it comes that time when you're 16 maybe it'll be spectaular for you , because if he's patient enough to wait for you, then maybe he's the one. :P
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noone can tell you when you're "ready" there is no pacific day that you will be either. it's your choice to choose if you're ready or not. you know? but maybe you should wait. longer than 2 months. but it's your choice. just make sure you're ready for all the out comes.
hope i helped.
-anjelica <3.
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No one can tell you when you're ready to have your first time. But, in my opinion, no one at 14 is ready for the possible consequences involved. Your best bet would be to wait.
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you are ready when you think your ready :)
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