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i feel bad for introducing them.
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this is really long and i'm sorry !
okay so my friend Derek was having people over to swim one day but my friend Melissa was over that hes never met before and i asked if it would be okay if i brought her along with me since she was spending the night. He had no problem with it so we went over there to swim along with a few other friends.
i introduced Melissa to everyone there. after a while Derek and Melissa started flirting a lot. and i didn't really think much of it because when i first met Derek he acted the same way towards me. plus i was glad Melissa was getting along with people there.
Then that night Derek called Melissa to talk cause he was really bored and hyper. They ended up talking for about 2 hours.
Two days later the exact same thing happened. we went over to Derek's to swim ( because he has people over a lot ) and again Melissa was at my house and i asked if it was okay if she came along again. of coarse he had to problem with it. They flirted a lot again. When we got home Derek told me to tell Melissa to call him. They only talked for a little because he was really tired and didn't sleep the night before. Now today we were supposed to hang out again but we couldn't because stuff came up. They have been talking on the phone all day..
The thing is - Derek has a girlfriend and they have been going out for 6 months. Derek's girlfriend has been on vacation for the past 3 weeks thats why she hasn't been around. I know he loves her a lottt. but for some reason when him and Melissa were in the middle of talking on the phone his girlfriend calls him and he flashes over and they only talk for 5 minutes. Then he says he will call her back later (but doesn't tell her why) then he calls Melissa right back and they keep talking foreverrr. Then im like "shouldn't you be calling your girlfriend back now ?" and hes just like "shhhhhhh"
Then they were talking on aim. She admitted to him that she likes him. Hes like you know i have a girlfriend ive been going out with her for 6 months and i like her a lot! and shes like yeah i know. hes like you are fun to be around you are cool funny nice and hot...lol but i do have a girl friend and i like you but i have a girlfriend and i like her a lottt.
Derek's girlfriend and i are good friends i don't want her to hate me because of this. its not like i meant for this to happen. i really don't want things to get out of hand.
i feel really bad for introducing them. i dont know if i should tell melissa to stop talking to derek or what ? im afriad if they do keep talking as much as they have been derek will begin to like melissa even more. and maybe go for her instead.
someone please help.
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Hi there...well, it seems to me that it isn't really your fault for introducing them. People are supposed to meet, you know? So don't blame yourself. I'm sure if it was up to them...they would meet one way or another anyway. But that's not the point. Don't tell Melissa to stop talking to him...because she probably won't listen to you. It's not YOUR fault they started getting closer and talked more on the phone. Why would it be? You just introduced them. And it seems to me, from what you have stated about Derek, that he is a flirt. So I'm pretty sure he probably does this with a lot of girls as well. If he was a nice guy, he wouldn't have led her on like that, and this situation would've never happened. So if his girlfriend DOES get upset at you, she shouldn't. Because all you ever did was introduce them. It's their own fault that this happened. If you think he's capable of leaving his girlfriend for Melissa, then he's not very truthful and faithful to his girlfriend. Just don't worry about it too much. It isn't your fault.
I really hope I helped. Good luck! =]
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hmm wow. this is very complicated here. first let me tell you, its not your fault at all. if derek is flirting with all these girls, maybe he and his current girlfriend arent even meant to be. maybe he is looking for someone else, but doesnt want to break her heart, so maybe this is doing something good. its better that derek would break up with his girlfriend, instead of "cheating" on her by flirting with melissa and other girls. if he talks to melissa for 2 hours and his girlfriend for 5 minutes, you can tell who he cares about more. he has seen melissa more than his girlfriend in the past three months, yet he wants to talk to melissa more. i think you should tell derek that he should tell his girlfriend about the problem or you will. you need to tell her what you told everyone on here. tell her that you never meant for anything to happen, it just all happened on coincidence. and if she hates you for something like this. she isnt a real good friend now is she? maybe six months is too long for their relationship to last, maybe its time for it to end and for them to find other people. he may really really like his girlfriend a lot, but if he really really cared about her, he wouldnt be flirting and talking to girls for hours. sorry this is really long, but i hope i helped :]
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