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i was with this guy once, bob and we did some stuff, and when he fingered me, it hurt, really bad. like i cried for an hour after. and i dont know if it's because i had a bad time then, but my almost boyfriend and me did stuff last night, he fingered me and it felt good, but nothing really happened besides it feeling good, nothing earth shattering like everyone always talks about .. i dont know if there's something wrong with me, or how to handle it. i feel like im gonna make him mad causenothing happens.
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girl same thing happens all the time
its natural guys really dont want to hear that you didnt feel anything because it hurts their egos.
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First of all, whether it feels good or hurts or not can depend on a few different things- were you warmed up? I.E.- lubricated? When a woman gets excited she gets a little wet down there and this makes it easier for something to go in. Otherwise it can be like raw, which can hurt and be very uncomfortable.
Second of all, some of the other answers are right, depending on how he did it, how big his fingers are, how many, etc. it could have been too much for you, or too rough. And that can take the pleasure out of it.
Third, some women don't enjoy this that much. You may be one of them. Everyone is different and likes different things. You have to find out what you like as well as HOW you like it.
Fourth, don't EVER be afraid that a guy will 'get mad'. You should never feel pressured in any way- that right there can also take the joy out of sex. It's meant to be enjoyable, but not FORCED joy...
Hope this helps clear some things up. :)
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i have been fingered many times before and i think its the most amazing sexually act someone can do besides actual sex. Ive never felt pain except for the last time a guy fingered me and idk why it hurt so bad it may be the size of the guys fingers or how many he was using or the way he was doing it. Your perfectly normal your body just doesnt have the same reaction as someone else may.
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The first time sometimes does hurt. The second or third time may even hurt. But eventually it does start feeling good. Sexual stimulation does feel good, but it's not THAT wonderful. It feels good, yeah but that's it. Orgasms on the other hand are great. Once again, maybe not earth shattering, but great =]
You aren't weird and i'm sure he understands. If he gets mad, leave him. He obviously wasn't worth it.
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I'm going to assume you're saying that you didn't have an orgasm or anything? That's perfectly fine. Not every girl enjoys being fingered as much as others-- some even calling it similar to just putting in a tampon. Try clitorial stimulation with your boyfriend- and explain to him everything that you've told us. Communication's always key.
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