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friend who isn't acting like a friend! what should i do?
One of my friends is very rude! Now when i say rude i don't mean burp in your face, potty-mouth rude. I mean this: she never listens to me...like if i tell her a problem of mine she turns it into a joke, even though i listen to hers. She also constantly puts me down by saying "youre dumb" or "retard!". Also she leaves me when the "populars" are around even though she isn't popular! This is so annoying and really hurts my feelings! I don't know weither to leave her or what! I know that scince we are just entering highschool it gets tough but it shouldn't be this bad! You know with the whole "clique" thing but, i just don't know what to do!!!!
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First off, if you haven't told her that its hurting your feelings you should. She shouldn't be allowed to be mean like that. Than second a lot of people I knew left me for the populars which made me think they weren't true friends. If she'll just dump you and not even invite you to come along, then you shouldn't be friends with her. But it's not my decision its yours. Try thinking about the goods and the bad's of the friendship. If there is more bads in the friendships, then I think you should rethink you and her being friends. And my advice to not be friends is slowly drift apart, rather than being rude and saying I don't like you or something like that because it will create more drama for high school. Everything will fall into place soon! = ]
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She's not a true friend. If shes making it hard for you then shes not a good friend at all. Talk with her and explain to her why she makes you mad. If that doesn't work try to make new friends and still hang out with her but let her go to you. Don't go to her. If you want still be friends with her, but not close, friends.
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wow.. that realy doesn't sound like a "friend". if shes making it hard for you then shes not a good friend at all. friends don't ditch you for "popular" people... you can either ignore it and just go along with it ( which I personaly do not advise) or if you want her to remain a friend, be open about it and tell her what she is doing that hurts your feelings. if your just starting high school you will meet so many new people, its great, you want better friends then that, and you deserve better, so talk to her about it, or find friends who treat you with more respect then that. :]
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your freinds problem can be that she was always a nobody and not popular...and when she finally found the popular people,shes trying to be like them in hope of fitting in with them,she doesnt like being herself,she wants to be out there and known and what proves that is her changing her attitude and being mean to you,popular kids mosta the time joke around like that,shes trying to do the same expecting you to accept it but you dont!SO what you need to do is have a talk with her,tell her how shes been acting and how shes different,let everything you feel out,if your nervous,even write it down on a paper and read it to her on the phone if your scared but you gotta let things be clear.IF she apologized and changes then forgive her,if she dont then you desserve your freindship,forget about her man youll find other freinds!
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the "put downs" are there so it could raise her self esteem
i know this cause everyone calls me the "dumb blonde" because it makes them feel better about themselves
so when people are laughing at that, they know they arnt laughing at them.
she just wants to fit in.
or maybe jokes around too much for you.
just talk to her, tell her it bothers you when she says stuff like that and if she cant deal...
neither can you. meaning shes not a very good friend
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