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screwed up family
my dad came home drunk 2 nights ago and it got out of control. he packed his bags and left, and scared the shit out of me and my brother and my mom. hes done this like 6 times over the last 15 years when hes been married to my mom, and he cheated on her once when my brother was 7 and i was 6. my mom hid it from us, but had him arressted for a night. most ppl are funny and let go when their drunk, but he's a mean drunk. hes an alcoholic and he cant stop it, so my parents are getting a divorce, my dads gonna live by himself and me and my mom and my brother are moving to a smaller house sometime before december. its by our house now, but i've never lived in a small house and i'm going to miss my dad so much, i don't even know if they are going to give him visitation rights to see us unless he is sober for a certain amount of time. if you can say anything to make me feel better or if you've been through the same thing, i appreciate some advice.thanks
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Well, of course he should have to stay sober for a certain period of time before he sees you. I know it sucks on your end that way, but I seriously doubt you want to have visitations with him being drunk, right? Especially considering he is mean about it.
Keep your chin up, because I know this all really blows, but it is the right thing for your mom to do. It isn't fair of him to be coming home all drunk and mean, getting out of control and scaring the living shit out of his family. This is the best way your mom can put a stop to it.
Think positive- maybe he will see the err of his ways and seek treatment for his alcoholism. I'm sure you would enjoy your time spent with him much more then.
ygs-29/f
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Well i have been through the same thing. At first i couldn't see my dad at all.Then once you start to realize that leaving your dad was a good thing.Just think if you didn't leave him you could of been hurt.
Ps. If you need any advice at all ask.
Whitney
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WEll your mom is doing the right thing because your dad is dangerous or at least threatening to her, and no person should have to live that way. They will go to court, and first off, the court won't WANT TO take away his rights to see you guys. They will give him a chance. He WILL be expected to show up for visits with you kids SOBER. He KNOWS that this will be required of him. If he choses not to, well your mom is going to tell the courts and then they may not let him see you guys at all, unless he goes through a rehabitilation program to stop drinking.
But it may just be the wake up call that he needs to stop drinking. Because I am sure the he is going to miss you guys too, and he is not going to like living alone. Hopefully he will change and stop drinking all together and then maybe your mom will take him back. This has happened before. So be hopeful. The the things that are about to happen, you guys moving into a smaller house and stuff, that all needs to happen so your dad can learn his lessons.
Hope this helps. Good luck to you. And hey you don't ever have to stop loving your dad, but you do need to understand that when he is drinking he is not being good to himself, and it is not good for him to be around his family.
Michele
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Well first of all I just want to say I am very sorry to hear about this. Also my dad goes nuts sometimes too. Although he is not drunk, he gets into these moods where he is so mean, and he blames stuff on everyone else, and he cusses and stuff. So I am not going to say I know what you are going through, but I will tell you this. My mom cheating on my dad and now they are divorced. I dont like my mom at all, but I thought I was going to miss her so much. But now, I realize that it is better off without her. And believe me it will be better off without your dad. Of course you are going to miss him, but in time you will realize that being without your dad is the best thing for your family, as well as you. Trust me, and I hope everything turns out ok.
Hope I helped:)
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