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Old Friends, Friends Again???
REALLY LONG, AND IM SORRY..
but i had to tell the whole story so you would understand it.
16/f
At the end of my freshman year I became friends with this girl Katelyn. Me and Katelyn became really close, and she was my BEST friend. We Spent everyday in the summer together!!
I always had a boyfriend, Katelyn never had a real relationship.
So during the summer I was dating a kid name Bradley. He was great, and he always took me and Katelyn to the movies(of course katelyn paid her way) But I wasnt allowed to go, so i had to sneek. And I ALWAYS thought she liked that i took her along.
So comes 10th grade and we start out close, best friends, nothing is wrong. Then I start dating Marcus, I REALLY Liked Marcus, so I didnt sneek to the movies or anything with him. So I spent everyday with him(bad move, i know) So me and Katelyn start to loose our closeness. (i;m still with Marcus) So come Feb. we get into a BIG fight. Mainly bc i would sit with her at lunch, but she wouldnt say one word to me the whole time.(bc she got other friends, which are the fakest people in my school.) So we got into a fight.
Now I was in class with her old best friend. (Long story sort, Betty was a hoe our freshman year and said some guy raped her, when he really didnt. And it was at katelyn's party. ) So Im in calss with her ALL year. So when me and katelyn get into a fight, i start talking to Betty more. And I start saying things about Katelyn that at the time i would thing to myself and say "shouldnt say that" but Katelyn was my main friend, and I didnt have one after her. And I wanted a friend sooo bad. So i would talk about Katelyn behind her back(fake i know)
But now she wants to be friends again. I want to so baly bc i miss her soo much. She was like a sister to me. But i dont want to go back to school and people think Im fake and all bc of the things I said this/last year.
What should I do? Be friends with her again and not care what people say or think bc i have my best friend back.
Or not be friends with her bc of the things I said??
Please help me!.. =[
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well it sounds that you guys were close, and i think that you should be friends with her again, cause the bad talk would stop, but if you chose to not be her friend, you might lose her for good. And anyways there might not even be any gossip or people calling you a fake, cause they shouldnt be talking. Everyone gets in arguments with there friends and sometimes we just say things, which is wrong, but it just happens. And it doesnt really matter what other people say its better to be happy with your friend then be miserable without one.
hope everything works out :]
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I really think that you should be friends with her again. You were mad, you said some things that you didn't mean, so that shouldn't hold you back from the one thing that you want so bad, your best friend back. Just make sure that you NEVER make a guy your number one. My friend does that, and she's always with her boyfriend. We're not close as we used to be, and it's not the same. We used to be inseperable, and it's definately not like it used to be. Always remember that she was there before you had your boyfriend, and she'll be there AFTER you have your boyfriend. Just apologize to her, tell her you were mad and you had to vent to somebody, even if it wasn't the best choice to vent to some girl you're not so close with. Say that she was your one true friend and you've been lost without her, and the one thing that you want back is her friendship. Good luck <3
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Hmm, quite a mess really but I think the best thing to do is if you're starting fresh with your friend it's to make sure the air is compltely clear between you both. So that means tell her you're sorry about things you sometimes said but also make sure you do tell her you said them out of anger or because you were upset she and you were no longer talking. Make sure she knows you've missed her and TELL her you've always thought of her as a sister. SHe won't know unless you do. Who cares what anyone thinks of you back at school (to say you're a fake is like saying you can't change your mind about who you like and who you don't - very pathetic and narrow minded). I mean ask yourself what's more important to you - having your friend back so you can both try build your friendships up again or what people at your school will say? People always talk it's no big deal (I guess in a way it's karma since people will now be talking about you in the same way you did about your friend).
Also, I know you said it was a bad idea but I'll say it anyway. Spending every free moment with your boyfriend/girlfriend is never a good idea. You should always balance out time with your partner as well as time with friends. Relationships are not a guarantee so if after you ditch all your friends and then your partner walks you're going to be left with no one.
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