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On death and dying.
My grandma died about six years ago now.
I loved her so much, and I miss her SO much if I think about it too much I'll be balling soon.
Recently (june 16, 2007) a kid from my school died. My best friend and I werent very good friends with him in highschool, it was mainly middle school that we have memories. But none the less, it hurts so bad, and I'm watching his tribute video they played at his funeral, and its just not fair. I still cant believe it, why him? He has such a future ahead of him in sports, he was amazing. I just dont understand.
And I dont know why I feel so close to him, because if it hurts me this bad, if a friend I was really close to died, I would be a huge wreck.
What am I supposed to do?
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I'm 16, and my friend just died about a month ago, or maybe a little over that. Anyways, he was 18 & going to graduate not even 2 weeks after his death, but his life was robbed.
I'm not exactly sure how old your friend was, but no matter how old they were, it's going to hurt. It always will. Death isn't an easy thing to overcome, and yeah, it'll take a while. Personally, what's been helping me is music. Whenever I get sad, I listen to music because whether or not someone is there for you, music always will be. If that doesn't help, write in a journal or an online diary. Vent your feelings, scream your heart out, cry. Do whatever you need to do in order to help yourself cope.
Honestly though hun, everyone dies. There is no way to change it, and whether they die now, or 10 years from now, it's going to hurt you & it's going to feel awkward not seeing them anymore. But think of it this way: He was needed for something. No matter what happened, there isn't a way you could've stopped his death. He was going to die sooner or later & no matter what you could've done, he would've died anyways.
But, take a while to cope with this & take time for yourself. If it helps at all, go on his MySpace & leave him a message or comment. Although he'll never comment you back, you still get your feelings out to him, and he'll always understand. Life isn't fair though, and nobody ever deserves the things that happen to them [unless they're an asshole], it's really hard. But, if you'd like someone to talk to, all of my information to contact me is on my column. I'd love to help further if at all possible.
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people come and go. everyones fate is set everyone dies. people cry when people die its fine. i say just think to yourself that you were friends and hes not gone he is just watching and he will always be with you now. you will start getting over it after a while thats how everyone is you will start getting better but you can always remember him as he is watching from heaven. its all ok. it was just his fate. its ok
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First of all I am very sorry to hear about this guy, and your grandmother. Second of all, I know exactly what you are going through. My grandmother died, about 3 years ago, and then this guy named Joseph Johnson died about 2 years aog. I used to keep wondering what would happen if I lost some one that was close to me (since Joseph wasnt really) but I was still very upset. But all you need to do is be prepared. Death is a scary thing, but in time it will come to asll of us. If someone very close to you dies, then just go to one of your close friends and just cry with them. Crying always makes people feel better, and afterwards you will realize that life goes on. And of course you will be sad, but in time it will become better and better, even though you will never forget them.
I Hope I helped
and again I am VERY sorry to hear about these people.
-MCRxoLoVeR
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