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friends...with benefits?
15/f.my ex bf and i are like best friends. we ended up hooking up [making out] this past weekend. and then we just kinda talked about it [on AIM] and, well, i just dont know what i want. or how i feel about him anymore. even though it's kinda slutty && unlike me, i wanna keep hooking up with him ! but i dont really think i want a realtionship with him again. because obviously, we broke up for a reason. there was a lot of problems when we were dating so we mutually decided that we should be friends. then...we hooked up. so now i think we're both confused. but hes pretty much made it clear that he doesnt really want to go on dates with me or be my ''boyfriend'' anymore. personally, i dont really want to go out with him either. but i just cant stop thinking about him lately. i dont know what to do. i care about him, but i think it's only as a friend. and i'm pretty sure thats all he feels for me too now. is having a friends - with - benefits really that bad, as in slutty? it IS summer...but idk. is it bad to hook up with him when there's no... feeling behind it? ugh idk =/
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well im 15/f to and my ex boyfriend and i had the same problem, we didnt want a relation ship but we hooked up alot. i personal think theres nothing wrong with friends with benifits as long as each person is fine with it and when you do find someone else the other person has to know to back off.
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Hey, well i have two different feelings on friends with benefits. It could be a great thing or the worst thing in the world, especially with an ex. It could bring back old feelings for one of you and the other one might just want to stay how you are, while the other one wants a real relationship. Its not slutty to have friends with benefits with JUST ONE PERSON, but when it comes to more than one, i consider it slutty. Also make sure that the guy that your having friends with benefits with is ONLY being like that with you and only you. Also before you get into this, make sure that this is what you both want and only what you both want. Say how you feel and dont hold back feelings, vice versa. That way if this is only what you guys want with your relationship, it works out and no one gets hurt.
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The only problem that can come from being "friends with benefits", is an emotional attachment. You guys wont be dating, leaving you both open to go after other people still. One of you will get jealous and it'll all be stupid. Seriously, just find someone else who actually wants to date, it's easier that way.
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having a friends with benefits with one person isn't really slutty at all. your main concern is that one of you may get feelings for the other again and wish to get back together, while the other does not. this can cause problems that may ruin any sort of friendship you all have with each other at the present time.
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