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I HATE HER!
13/f
My little sister always gets the attention and love! I'm serious! My sister does something, I get blamed for it! Everytime my parents leave me and my sister alone, my sister actually bites me! Then when my parents get home, they bring something for my sister, but not me! Then I tell them what my sister did, but they say, "Honey, you know your sister would never do that." Then, my sister tells my parents that I bit her and punched her. I get in trouble! I need advice on how to control my stupid sister! If it helps, my sister is going to be 11 in 2 weeks.
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She bites you...hmm, shouldn't she have moved on from the biting stage as a baby?
I'm sure that when she bites you, she'll leave a mark. Run to get a camera and take a picture and shove it in your parents faces and show them the bite mark[s].
Then just pull them or one of them aside when your sister isn't around. CALMLY tell them that you feel like they're being unfair against you. Tell them what you wrote on here, in a more articulate, nice manner. Just give them instances of times when your sister got out of something she did do when you were stuck with something you didn't do.
Ask them why they only get you in trouble for something you didn't do. Ask them why they believe your little sister while they don't believe squat of what you say.
Good luck and if you need to vent, I'm here with no lie =]
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Do you have a camera phone. Can you take a picture of her mis behaving while your folks are away. Can you record her talking to you, and saying nasty things and treatening you? Do you have a recorder, or can you borrow one? Wait until your parents are away and turn it on and hide it. It won't be long before she comes along and starts harassing you. Since she got away with it before, I am sure that she will try again.
This really sucks, and it is too bad that you are in the middle of this. Since you are already the brat, and she's the princess...why not say to your parents that "hey, it's a parents job to treat all (or both) of their children equally, no matter how hard it is." EVen if they respond negatively at first, you will put a thought in their head and maybe they will be more careful in the future. You will make them feel guilty and parents hate to feel guilty.
Hope this helps
Michele
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Your sister is younger by two years and needs more of their time, support and attention. You are 13 now and expected to be more independant and not always needing their attention or pat on the back.
Because you are older they expect you not to hit your sister or be physical in any way even if she hits you first. They expect you to walk away and come get them to deal with it.
As far as them saying that she would never do something prove to them that she has using words and show them the bit marks if you have to. Yes, they'll more often take her side if it's something physical as they would expect you to walk away.
The reason you get blamed is for fighting back against her to continuing the argument and not finding them or another adult to stop it and talk with her about her actions.
You cannot contol her or anyone else for that matter. If your sister starts a fight or gets on your nerves find a way not to react, seek their guidance and things will turn out better for everyone.
I'm sure there are times when your parents bring you presents too and your sister might not get one. Trust me, they love you equally but expect more out of you here because you are older and should be wiser to try and back away from fights she's starting and not to hit her etc.
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Perhaps your sis is jealous of you? I have a little sister and we do not get on AT ALL, but my mum told me she always says how she wishes she could be like me. I'm sure there's loads of stuff about you your sis could be jealous of. Also, sounds cliche but if you stay calm a) it will annoy her and b) you might not get into trouble! If u parents keep on taking her side maybe you shud either talk to them seriosuly or if all else fails have a tantrum to show them you mean buisness, and she is really annoying you!
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