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shy???
16/f.. so i am sooo sick of being known as the shy quiet girl. i went to a private school up until 9th grade, where my group of friends & i were basically known to never talk [which was bull bc we did but we werent so loud & out there]. i thought when i changed schools itd be a whole new beginning. it has been a little bit as ive been forced to open up and make friends, but soo many people still say im always soo quiet and never say anything. IT IS SOO EFFING OBNOXIOUS! ive loosened up alot the past couple of years and while i may not be the most popular girl who can just talk to anyone or be loud in class, im not a mute. im always laughin and carryin on in class but usually only to a couple people that i sit around. how can i change this? people always say oh just say whats on your mind.. well sometimes, theres just not anything on my mind! if i had something to say i would say it no problem, but sometimes my mind is just a black hole haha and i seem to be bad with keeping conversations going unless i just click with people really well. i just want this whole shyness thing to go stuff itself.. any thought?
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well since you said you never have a lot on your mind to say, you don't say anythign on your mind! maybe if you join a team or club, you will have more oppinions to satte! don't change who you are just because of some people who think your too shy! just make sure you are comfotable with the people you are hanging aroud with, and you shuold be able to open up with them a lot! good luck with everytihng!<3
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Hey hey first of all don't worry because I kind of went through the similar thing. But I guess I've changed drastically because people now sometimes question "what happen to that quiet innocent girl i used to know??"
which i think its stupid because i was never that shy in the first place, it's just that I moved from a different country and didnt speak ENGLISH that much... so yeah i had no choice but to be quiet... anyways
dont let others opinion get to your head I mean do they even know you that well to judge you like that? Nope. so why do you need to worry?
i mean i know its hard but you gotta learn to live with it. I mean its better than being called a slut or a freak you know?
Sooner or later they are just going to learn that you can't always be outgoing and extrovert. Especially when you dont know them that well.
Also it would help if you go around the class and try to talk to other people before the class start. And have your friend introduce you to other people or something like that. THat definetly helps out
Hope this helped :D
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ok i could've wrote this question myself (except for the private school stuff) but i'm the exact same way! and you're right, it's sooo annoying when people are like do you ever talk?? yes, i do-i'm not mute. and then people are like just be yourself, say anything-it doesn't just work like that. so, even though i'm really not making much progress as of yet .. i've decided whenever i talk to someone new, even if it's not a full conversation, just a few words back and forth, i'll reward myself with something. sounds stupid, but you never know! think out conversations before in your head. think of things you can ask them or talk about. also, don't worry about those people who say things-why would you wanna talk to them anyway if they think you never talk? just talk to the people you say you sit around and don't worry about anyone else. as you become more open with them, maybe that will help you with others. i hope i helped, good luckk!:)
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Dear, "shy"...
stop worrying about what others say about you. you are who you are. you have nothing to prove tov] yourself. you are young, bright, and clearly have conviction. just stop worrying and enjoy what you love about yourself and what your friends love about you.=]
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