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mom says 3 more years
hello
i'm 14/f. I am really mad now because whenever i talk to my mom about boys, she says i can't date for another 3 more years, (so that's when i would be 17) but i REALLY don't want to wait that long. All of my friends already have boyfriends and I really don't want to wait until 17 when i get my first kiss. that would be so akward. I've already had my 1st boyfriend (only lasted for a week) and I really liked having a guy around me saying that he cares about me and having someone hold hands with me... etc.
is there anyway i can change my mom's mind? How am i supposed to act if a guy asks me out and my mom doesn't approve? aghh i really need help
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well your mom is just watching out for you and doesn't want you to get hurt. but you need to tell your mom that you are ready to have boyfriend, give her some reasons they have to be good NOT like "all my friends have one" my mom told me that she would rather have me have a boyfriend now when im still young then when im older. just be honest with her things will work out=)
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ugh my mom was kinda like this
and I had a guy friend whose mom was like this.
he at first, didn't tell her,
which you can try,
but then she might find out
which i guess his mom did.
but that actually worked in his favor.
they had a huge talk about it and now
he's alowwed to date and what not.
just explain to her,
if a guy asks you out, like mom,
"there's this guy I really like
and we're not gonig to be anything serious
but we wanna have a little more than a frienship."
tell her it won't be a huge thing.
let him come over and meet her and hang out and what not.
hope it helps <3
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I cant believe im telling you this, but Dont tell her. As far as she knows that is just your friend. Someone your hanging out with you know?
The only reason your mom wants you to wait is because its a lot of girls your age with babies, struggling to support themselves and the kid. Cant get a job because they aint old enough.
You got to show your mom that she can trust you around boys first before she even thinks about letting you date one. She is just scared for you. And Im not taking her side, I just ander stand. When my child turns 14, I will be 32. You do the math. I wish i woulda listened to my mom.
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Have you tried to calmly explain to your mom that you are curious about boys? She was your age once and is just trying to do what she thinks is best for you. Maybe try and work out a deal with her. Ask her if you and a boy can go see a movie and she can suprivise. With in reason. Trust me that sounds lame but it's a start. You might think it's all b/c of you. But your mom might not want to accept that you're growing up into a young lady. Hope I helped.
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Well, your mom is probably worried that you will get into a situation that you won't know how to handle. Specifically, that a guy will want you to go farther than you want to (or than she wants you to), and that you won't be able to say no. She probably thinks that when you're older and more mature, it will be easier for you to handle those situations.
However... knowing how to handle guys doesn't just come with age. It comes with experience. And it's not so bad to start getting that experience now. In fact, when you're 17, and guys are even more sex-crazed than they are at 14, they'll be even more likely to pressure you into something you're not ready for. And if you haven't had the experience of saying, "No, I'm not ready to do that", it can be hard to do. But if you can learn gradually, with more innocent situations when you're younger, you'll be better prepared when you're older and in more serious relationships.
Tell your mom that. Tell her that you understand her concerns, but that you're worried about turning 17, having your first date, and having no clue how to handle a guy. Tell her you think its important to learn these things little by little, instead of jumping right into dating with no experience. Ask her if you can start off small... going to the movies with a boyfriend and a group of friends, or having a boy come over when she's home, or go someplace with you and your family. And tell her that you'll always be open to talking with her about guys, and that you hope she will be too.
I don't know if that will work, but it's worth a shot! Good luck!
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