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So, a very dear freind of mine got raped 3 weeks ago. she has just turned 14
her parents are worried about her health cause since the inncadent she has BARLY been eating. shes refuses to go to therpy. she doesnt talk much eather. shes not herself. i understand that she needs time to adjust. shes kinda like in shock.
last night, she called me. crying hastericly. she thinks she pregnate. her period stoped and never came back. i keep telling her that it has only been 3 weeks and that nothing is sure.
she took a pregnacy test and she said she took it 2 times one time it said she was pregnate, the other said she wassnt, both taken the same week.
hellppp
thank all you guys so much.
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Oh Goodness! I am sure your friend is a complete fret right now. Comfort your friend. Tell her everything is going to be fine and that it's not her fault. Ask your friend to see a doctor. Remember always to treat your friend the same. For she might feel that you are only her friend because you feel bad for her if you don't. But in a way, treat her different. Keep on reassuring your friend that this isn't her fault and ask her to talk to her parents. Tell your friend to not let this ruin her life. Talk to her about the options with the child[ren]; That is if there is one. Remember that no pregnancy test is 100% accurate so be aware of that. The best thing to do is have your friend see a doctor.
Best of Luck,
♥ Mz.JENNiFER
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hey,
your friend is most defianitely in shock, heck, anyone would be if that had happened.
You have just got to be there for her and stay strong for her. If she is pregnant then there are measures that can be taken if she doesn't want the baby and if she isn't well.. she isn't.
You have got to give your friend time to overcome what she has been through, its tough for her to handle, but don't punish yourself if you can't be there to hold her hand. She needs to think things through for herself, it's her life. Don't carry it on your shoulders.
Talk to me if that helped, or you need further advice.
Biriani
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Of course she is upset, and not eating, and the possibility of being pregnant adds insult to injury. Salt in the wounds, so to speak. She needs to be in therapy whether she wants to go or not. She needs to feel that she is not alone, and that there are people who are emotionally strong that can get her through this. It does not matter that she doesn't want to go to therapy. It does not matter if she sits there for four weeks and doesn't say a thing. Therapist are used to that. They expect that in a case like this, but she still needs to go so that when she is ready to talk, she will be talking to someone who is ready to deal with the STRONG emotions that will be coming out of her. The anger, the tears, the pain, the loss of innocense. Her family is in no position to help her. They just want her to be happy again, and forget about it. After all, their thinking is they still love her and they know it is not her fault, so they are willing to forget it so she should. But it just doesn't work that way. She will never forget, but she can learn to cope. With the right therapist. It has nothing to do with her parents. She needs the support of someone who had experience with these things. I hope the boys who did this to her have been arrested. If she is pregnant, she should seriously consider getting an abortion. Early. It is just more pain, I know, but in time this incident can move to the back of her mind and she can have a chance at a normal life. Please talk to her folks. She is a minor child, they can make her go to therapy, and that is what she needs. Even if she doesn't realize it yet. She will never have a normal relationship with a man in her future, if she doesn't get help. Don't let her throw away her future, because some guys are jerks. I hope they go to jail. She did the right thing, she survived. She is alive. Now she needs to take back her life. She may not be ready yet, but without therapy, she will always blame herself. Crawl into a hole and never come out. Please try to talk her into therapy.
Write again if you like. She can write me to if she likes.
Michele
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Just make sure you're there by her side the whole time! Whether shes pregnant or not.
Encourage her to eat heathy food. For some reason soup comes to my mind as a good one.
And if she keeps worrying that shes pregnant, remind her that babies are a precious and beautiful creation from God.
Stay by her side as often as you can and make sure to tell her shes going to get through this!
God bless!
Abigail
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If she was raped and it was reported they would have probably given her the morning after pill to make sure she wasn't pregnant after the exam. Its just procedure. So if she reported it and went to the ER she either isn't pregnant or got pregnant afterwards by someone else. Stress can cause your period not to come.
She needs professional help. Her parents need to get it for her. A 14 year old shouldn't even be given a choice about going in this case. Her parents need to say "You are going", period. End of discussion.
As her friend, please encourage her to get help.
Keeping it bottled up will only lead to bigger problems in the future. If she thinks she is pregnant, she needs to tell her parents.
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