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SEX and religion
okay im confused bout something. im a chrisitian and i really want 2 do everything right but there are 2 things i cant give up ( sex with my boyfriend and wearing showy clothes and cursing ) and everything else am perfect wit.
the sex wit my friend one _ im kinda engaged 2 him and we'r gonna get married does that still make it wrong
2. is it wrong 2 wear showy clothes, can u stil be a good christian
3. i cant help cursin i do it witout thinkin
pleaes this is only for real believers. tell me wat is right in GODs eyes thank u
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i had that problem a few yas ago and you know as long as you are a believer in God he forgives so dont beat yourself up about
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I'm not a religious person, but I think you might need a different perspective here.
Is it wrong to have sex with your boyfriend? No. Nowhere in the Bible does it say that you cannot have sex. Actually, it encourages it. The no sex before marriage thing is a cultural value that has become combined with religion. If you're having sex for the right reasons, as I suspect you are, then I don't see why God would have a problem with it. It's a beautiful thing, and it was meant to be enjoyed.
Is it wrong to wear showy clothes? Not necessarily. As the person below said, as long as your intent is right, you're good.
Cursing? Not as bad as you think, and definitely not a religious issue. Did you know that the discussion of any body part below the neck was once taboo? And that the word "piss" was once perfectly acceptable? It's a cultural thing, again.
As for your request for people to tell you what's right in God's eyes, nobody can do that. If I understand correctly, to do so is really quite disrespectful.
The way I see it, a good Christian thinks of others before themselves. They are kind and thoughtful. As long as you follow your beliefs and are nice to people, you're a good Christian in my eyes.
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First off: I want to say that there is this realyl cool website for Chirstian girls and guys who are confused abotu dating, how far to go, and how to live a life of purity....its www.godofdesire.com....they have different articles and such on sex and dating and love life in general.
I don't think that God will smite you for cussing, because sometimes it just happens. For example, if you cuss and when feel bad about it and repent and try to do better...it'll be okay. God knows if we are really trying and how much we want to praise Him.
About what you wear: It depends how "showy" you want to get and why your wearing it. If someone wears a mini skirt and halter top so that guys will lust after her then she has the wrong intentions, but if shes wearing it because she feels she beautiful then i think its okay....Personally, I think when women wear clothes like that its like their giving away their girt of secrecy; in other words if women are showing off their butt, breast, and hips then they are revealing the things that guys should hold off on until marriage. Like if guys are already getting pleasure from seeing the butt and breast then when a woman wants respect: they might not get it because they've given away their body...instead of treating it like the prize it is...( I hope that makes sense)....
And lastly, even if you are engaged; its not right to be having sex. Sex is supposed to be for marriage and even though you're almost there....you should hold off until marriage...
Good Luck! I hope this helps! :)
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in God's eyes engaged or not its still wrong to have sex before marriage...so yes it's still wrong if you really want to be a good Christian...and you can wear showy clothes but only to an extent...tone it down a bit...you can't just show off everything...you might think it looks good but most people get the wrong idea and with the whole cursing thing...God doesn't condone it but as long as your not using GD it's alright...but needs to be...again...toned down...just try not to let it slip..if you get into the habit of using alternative words that get the point across without using those words he'll look a lot more kindly on you...but the major thing Christians believe in is the whole no sex until marriage
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