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one-sided friendship, keep it or let it go?
I am having a problem with a friend of 1 1/2 years that lives down the street from me. I am a man, 42 and he is 30. We are both married. We both like cars and mechanical stuff, so we have lots in common. He has all the qualities that I want in a friendship, like honesty, integrity, non-smoker, light drinker, no drugs, etc. I really enjoyed talking to him, but I was always the one to initiate contact. I used to go down to his house and talk to him when I saw his garage door up and he was working on his car, but it's been three months since I've talked to him and he hasn't made any effort to contact me. Whenever we would see each other, he acted as if he liked me, he was in a good mood and talkative. He obviously knows where I live and he has my phone numbers, but he never calls or comes by. He knows that I race a dirt track car every Saturday night, and I've told him that he is welcome to go with me any time, but he never does. He never asks me to do anything with him, either. I feel that I am the only one that wants to be friends, so I am not planning on contacting him any more because I don't want to be a pest or be in a one-sided friendship, which is not a true friendship im my book. I figure that if he really likes me and wants to be friends with me, then he will make an effort. It's really disappointing to have found a guy that I really would like for a friend and be rejected. This is really bothering me, because I have no close friends and I was hoping to develope a close friendship. :( What do you think?
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Sounds to me like you answered your own question :] Don't try keeping a relationship with someone who has no intentions on keeping up with it. That's defiantly not someone you would want to keep as a friend. If you want close friends try checking on websites. I'm sure there other people out there in your situation who are dying for a friend like you :]
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just call him up one-day and be like
"hey, long time no see, me and my wife wanted to invite you and your wife to dinner tonight, chat and have happy hour, say arround *wheneva time*"
act casual about it you know =] if he refuses or after this doesnt caontact you, then i would let it go =[
--ashley
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try one more time and then give up
maybe he feels like youre too old to be friends with him since he has just recently gotten out of his twenties?
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I think you should let it go. You sound like a sweet guy, so If he's avoiding you then you deserve better.
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make one final act of friendship, because he might just be shy. after that I would suggest giving up and trying to find other men at the race track or whatever, don't waste your time on this guy
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