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personality condition
A guy friend of mine and I are kinda arguing... He likes me but I went and had sex with my ex-boyfriend. He thinks I always make the wrong decisions and never think about the consequences. He's only really upset coz I found out he likes me.
My question is: He told me I have "imediate gratifacation" (sp?) and he said its like a personality condition. Can someone please explain that to me?
Thanks
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He's not psychologist, don't let him diagnose you.
Telling someone they have immediate grantification isn't even proper english. Anyways, what he means is that your the kind of person that when they find what they want, they immediately go for and "gratify" themselves. For example, if you wanted to screw a guy, you'd do it without thinking twice about it.
But then again, he's an asshole for saying that so if I were you, I'd tell him he's insecure about himself and probably suffers from a little bout of depression or social anxiety disorder.
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Gratification is the good feeling you get when you get something you want. Immediate or instant gratification just means you try and get what you want as fast as possible.
Wanting immediate gratification or instant gratification isn’t a personality disorder, but it is certainly a personality flaw. Maturity is often defined as the ability to delay gratification, basically, to have patience. You learn to have patience because you realize that feeling good quickly in the moment, might mean feeling worse and loosing out in the long term.
That is exactly what happened to you here. You felt good, got gratification, by sleeping with your ex in the short term, but in the long term, you lost out on a good guy.
He just labeled the messed up behavoir you already you knew you were doing. Hopefully this experience will help you mature and learn not to jump for a in for the quick gratification, but wait for the better, longer lasting one.
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