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i try to much stuff~my friend that hates my other friends
13/f i get me and my best friends into everything. but mainly me and either joe or lisa i just try anything i can as in sports of camps or even hairstyles. i usually end up messing up or breaking something or some bone. i just have fun. i like trying new things anything new. lately lisa makes excuses when i ask if she wants to sign up for a sport or anything. i tell her she doesnt have to. but shed rather lie to me. shes not really my partner in crime anymore lol she doesnt do anything with me at all really. we do go to the mall thats pretty much all. she cries saying she has no friends. and that i never do anything with her.
too much drama. now i guess i have a new bestfriend and her to but im in a group of really close friends. my other bestfriend joe is a guy he will do anything with me hes been one of my bestfriends for years. lisa doesnt like him. she always tries to pick my friends i Hate when she does that! so i just go with who i want. am i wrong for doing that. she doesnt think guys and girls should be bestfriends or even in a group. she doesnt like my group of bestfriends all 8 of us are extremely close5 girls 3 guys and then theres her. she tries to pick my friends and she hates all my friends. i am not hers she doesnt own me. i do what i want when i want. im pretty much her only friend. i invite her to everything with my other friends but she just hates them. no wonder why she doesnt have friends she tries to pick for other people.
what do i do? is it bad i love to try anything i can? ive tried almost every sport or thing i may not be the best but i have the most fun. am i too extreme? whats wrong with me? how do i get her to stop lieing to me? is she a best friend? why does she try to pick my friends? i ignore it and be friends with whoever i want. can guys and girls be bestfriends in a group or just one and one? how do i help her? anything else pleaseeee.
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OKay, you have been a good person and friend and have done all that you can do. Hear this quote
"Please all and you will please none."
You cannot please everyone so pick and choose your battles. Dont let this get the best of you. You are doing the right thing by not holding back but listen...a friend is a friend, someone who will be by your side and accept things and move on...NOT depend on your every breath to keep her alive. Chica, i know this sounds wrong but you need to tell her how you feel and if she cant accept it and isnt willing to change you should try to break away from her...only for the better b/c you have a life of your own and she cannot hold you back from it.
Good luck.
Hope that I helped.
*Keosha*
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no its a good thing who cares whaat your frieands think just do it
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First of all, Lisa is an competitive person and that's why she's stop participating in sports with you, so accept that about her and find another partner in crime as you called it. People are different and no one is the same.
As far as her being the one that doesn't like all your friends in your group and being the odd one out-- so be it. Continue your group friendships no matter what.
Talk to her. Tell her about your observations of why she has no friends and not giving the group a chance to all be friends and join in and have fun.
Tell her the truth and set it free.
She can either accept your observational truth and try to get along and change her ways, or go her own lonely road.
No one can have their cake and eat it too, so if she won't be cooperative with you and your group friends-- then so be it-- it was her choice.
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