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Does he like me ?
hey :] 15/f
okay. there's this hot guy i met through my brothers soccer (hes older and he helps out b.c hes coaches son). last week we talked for so long and stayed like 45 mins after practice just to talk. He added me on msn and we talk there too. He asks me if i have a b.f (then i say no and he says im smart:P) and he tells me im cute and he said he lets beautiful girls like me call him. He always compliments me when we talk face to face (like i bet you're really good and im more interested in your pilates then my workout etc.) He goes to another school though so i cant see him everyday(N) My question is does he like me?
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This guy seems a bit dangerous. He is obviously interested in you, but you should play hard to get to see how he is.
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obviously he has interest in you ... he sounds like hes an older guy going to his friends saying "lets see if i can get this chick to flirt with me." maybe he does like you, but lke the other girl said, "i only let beautiful girls call me" .. thats f-d up. if you really want him don't throw urself at him. make him chase you, honey.
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Well, yes, but those are some cheap compliments, and at his age a younger cute girl is very lustful for him I'm sure. Especially one that practices pilates. FYI he sounds like a jock that's trying to knock you up.
Within the text "he lets beautiful girls call him" on second thought I know he's bad news. That's honestly a pretty fucked up thing to say, and I warn you to be slow to judge for not picking up something bad about that. Now you know he's talking to a lot of girls, because of their physical features.
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He finds you attractive - that's fairly certain. Whether that's a good thing or not is less certain.
From what little you say about this guy, he sounds fairly creepy to me. Start with the fact that he's "older" - how much older? If you're talking 17 or 18, then that's normal; any older than that and it seems a little odd that he would be interested in dating a 15-year-old girl. If he's in his twenties, then I'd definitely be leery of him (picture yourself in your twenties - would you court a 15-year-old boy?)
He seems to be dishing out the flattery, seeing how you respond. Now, I'm not saying that you aren't deserving of compliments, but the line that really gets me is that "he lets beautiful girls like me call him." He LETS them call him?? Like it's some kind of great privilege to talk to this guy on the phone? How big is this guy's ego, anyway? I mean, it's a good thing you didn't have a pimple that day; he might have decided that you were unworthy of calling him. Give me a break...
Another thing - he says you're "smart" not to have a boyfriend. Read between the lines, and you'll see that he's clearly not one to value commitment. Now, there's nothing wrong with dating a bunch of people as long as everyone knows that's the deal, but don't count on any kind of exclusive relationship with this guy. He might also mean that you're smart not to have a boyfriend because boys can be real jerks - thus providing himself with an excuse up front to act like one when he feels like it.
Maybe I've got entirely the wrong idea - I've never met him or you - but my advice here would be to tread carefully. This guy seems really shallow, and he has "user" written all over him. At least try to get some independent information on him before getting your hopes up.
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Okay, if he's only 16, then that makes a difference; he's probably just trying to be charming as best he can. Those kinds of lines from someone who's college-age would be pretty pathetic, but from someone younger, it's to be expected (I was 16 once too, and I said a number of things a lot cornier things than that).
Since you have independent opinions that say he's a nice guy, and since your family and friends seem to like him, I'd say go for it; he's showing you every sign that he's into you. I still think he's probably commitment-shy, but that's not necessarily a bad thing, just something to keep in mind.
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