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okay so i've been going out with my boyfriend for 11 months and i have a problem. i don't talk to his parents that much, like i say hi, how are you? but not usually a conversation. it's not because i'm ignoring them it's just i don't know how to start a conversation with them. i almost feel awkward talking to them. if anyone can help i would appreciate it! thanks
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Firstly it depends on your age. When i was 16 i met my boyfriend and i was exactly like you to the point where they started to dislike me. To break the ice we ended up having a bbq and a couple of (naughty underage) drinks and really loosened up. If you know what they do for a living ask about that. Ask how their day was, ask about what your boyfriend was like when he was younger, that sort of thing. Stay away from things that they could get passionate about or it might start something big.
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In contrast to what another person told you, I'd avoid politics (Iraq War), finances, and religion. Ask your BF's parents what they do for a living. Ask them how their work days went. Ask if they have any plans for the summer, etc. Ask their opinion on your choice of career, college, term paper topic, or whatever. Parents are just people. Treat them with respect, but talk with them about the things that are important to them or to your boyfriend. Telling them about your wishes for the future (as long as they're not 'get pregnant, married, and get a minimum-wage job') they will likely be interested in what you say. You can also ask them questions like how they met, what colleges they went to, what music they like, etc.
Good luck
Sabine
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You could ask them if anything new was going on, if there was a place they always wanted to go, what they think about the war in Iraq, or maybe you could ask them about how they met. Conversation starters like these will really show them you care.
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well when you go to his house just say hi like you always do. then you can ask them something about your boyfriend, like "do you know when _____'s next [baseball] game is?" or something like that. then they will answer and the conversation will just continue.
or if they ask you a question instead of just answering with yes or no, actually say whats on your mind and maybe ask them a question about it too.
it will start off hard, but it gets easier the more you do it. plus his parents will really appreciate it :]
i know my parents love it when our boyfriends talk to them!
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