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hi my name is sarah im 18 years old! im just wondering what i should do! its kinda awkward... but everytime and my boyfriend get intimate he ask to have anal intercourse. i'm just wondering whether this is normal or maybe he is confused with his sexuality?? maybe someone out there has had the same problem as me?? advice or solutions would be much appreciated as i would not like to have anal intercourse. thanks so much you guys..
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I think he knows Damn well what he is doing, not confused with his sexuality. He wants a challange, and that challange is for you to say yes to anal intercorse, also the anus is a lot more constricted so it feels better, for him at least. It could also be because there is less of a risk of pregnancy. If i were you i would say just go fuck a guy if that's what you want.
but that could get you introuble so just let him know that it's not what you desire.
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Well if you don't want to have anal intercourse, don't do it. Tell him no and tell him you refuse to do it. If he actually cares for you, he won't push it.
As for his reasoning, just because a guy wants to have anal sex doesn't mean he's confused with his sexuality. Guys have anal sex with girls all the time, it's not strange or taboo anymore. It doesn't mean he's gay or curious or whatever at all.
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You set the rules and boundaries when it comes to sex and if you don't start doing it soon. You owe him nothing when it comes to sex. If you don't want to do something such as anal intercourse than tell him no.
Tell him point blank "You know I love you a lot and it's nothing personal but the thought of that kind of thing is disgusting to me and not pleasurable. Do not raise the issue again with me again as I'm saying it once only, NO."
He's not gay hon, the thing with guys and this particular act is that the muscles in that area clamp down on his penis and the area is super tight unlike a vagina. some guys are obsessed with things needing to be tight.
It's also pleasurable for him but usually painful for the woman and requires a ton of lubrication because the walls of the anus can/do tear. It's high-risk sexual activity especially for transmission of AIDS (which he doesn't have but just saying).
You wear the pants here and determine what goes on with your body and sex. Put your foot down and tell him it's not happening. If he pouts tell him to find another girl who is willing. He won't, but he'll get that you are serious.
Don't be afraid with guys to let that "roar" inside of you come out when you have to let your point of view about something like this come out. He has to understand in no uncertain terms that you're in control when it comes to sex and what you'll do with him period.
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Lots of perfectly straight guys really like anal intercourse.
If you don't want to have anal intercourse, tell him so, straight up, with no backing down. If it's totally out of the question for you, that's just fine, but don't lead him on or give him hope, be honest.
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I highly doubt that he's confused with his sexuality. For a lot of guys, anal sex is the final frontier.
If you're not comfortable, tell him. Just let him know that you absolutely are not into that, and if he cares about you he'll leave it alone. Tell him that if you ever change your mind about it, you'll let him know.
If he really pushes it, tell him that he can do it to you when you can do it to him. Threaten to get an extra-large strap-on expressly for this purpose... that might stop his pestering :P
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