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He has a girlfriend
I met this guy not too long ago. I'm 19 and he's 28. We started talking and we get along great. I think he has been very honest to me. He has a girlfriend he's been with for 4 years. She was away for work... but he told me he likes me. I started to like him a lot too. He started to ask me questions, like if I think he's cheating on his girlfriend by talking to me. I told him no, because we're not doing anything physical and I told him if he was starting to feel guilty that we could stop.... And yesterday morning he told me that he probably wasn't going to be able to see me anymore because his girlfriend was comming back. We started talking and he seemed pretty sad and I was sad... and I guess one thing led to another and we eneded up having sex...
I'm not the type of person that falls for any guy and i've always had high standards. It's really hard for me, But this time I found someone that was able to reach those standards... but he's taken. He kissed me and said goodbye. I don't think i'm ever going to see him again. I'm afraid of calling him, because his girlfriend is back... And I want to respect that and not get in the way.
Sorry this is so long. But I don't know what else to do, Any thoughts or advice?
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Literally, im telling you, he cheated on his girlfriend.. so if youre ever with him, wont he cheat on you??? this probably isnt the first time he has done this to his girlfriend.. im telling you, please, just dont even be friends with that dog.
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Honestly? Be thankful it's over.
Think of it this way- the man obviously has a serious commitment with his girlfriend, since they have been together for 4 years, and I assume they must live together.
So... What kind of man is he, to meet with another woman behind her back? What kind of man is he to say he likes this other woman (obviously in a romantic way), has sex with her, then says he can no longer see her, as he runs back to his unsuspecting girlfriend?
To put it bluntly- he is a dog. It's guys like him that give the rest of the male population a bad name.
That's why I say be thankful.
Seriously. Lose his number.
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Well, my guess is that his relationship with his girlfriend will not work out. He'll feel too guilty about what he did and that will destroy it whether she finds out about what happened or not. You'll probably get your chance with him at some point if that's any comfort. I hope you realize though, that he may be or have become disposed to cheating. If you do end up dating him, keep that in mind. He seems like a really nice guy and you definitely had a great connection. He'll miss you. A lot, and probably contact you at some point. Respect his wishes and stay out of contact with him. It'll make him miss you all the more. There's no point in trying to break him up with his girlfriend or in telling her about what happened. Not only is it the wrong thing to do and his responsibility to take care of everything with his girlfriend, but his relationship is on the rocks anyways. If you do what he wants, he'll probably turn to you after it ends. I hope that in the future, you aren't so easily seducted and can refrain from having sex with someone in this type of situation. If you hadn't had sex with him things wouldn't be complicated at all and I would have advised you to stay in friendly contact with him. Since the damage has been done, all you can do is wait and hope that his current relationship ends soon. Good luck.
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