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I need MAJOR help please!!!
Well im gonna go short.In DEEPLY in Love with my Best friend but he has a gf.I reallly want to tell him how i feel but im scared:(.plz guys tell me what to do..i really really really like him.Do you think theres something i can do to make him leave her??or i dunno plz just hepl out:'(
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whoa, I'm sorry, but you have crossed the line. Girl rule #1, NEVER try to break up a couple, no matter what, unless one partner is being unfaithful. Anyway, onto your "crisis". Wait. you have to wait 'till he's single, and then go for it. If that don't happen, he's happy, forget him and enjoy your friendship. My way of trying to forget a guy is go guy shopping. Pick out a guy you like, then go for him.
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I think you should not do anything to risk losing your freindship with this guy.You telling him how you feel might make you lose your freindship with this guy,he can be all like ok..imma keep away from her so she dont like me more.I think you should try to get over this because if he liked you back the way you did,i dont think hed have a girlfreind.I know you might not like this answer but this is reality.If you make him leave her then karma will bite you back.What goes around ccomes around and one day someone will break you up with the guy you love.Just find another guy that will take his place im sure that youll find him but if you tell ur freind how you feel,youll lose your freindship,your dignity and your pride
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If you tell him now, his girlfriend will be on you like a hawk, and she'll hate you. Not only that, but she'll give you drama, & things to worry about. Wait until they're not together anymore to tell him.
And you can't make him leave her. I mean, you could always tell him what a slut she is, but that wouldn't work without proof. Just wait for them to break up because if you break them up yourself, you're gonna ruin your reputation & no one's gonna like you.
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Unless you want his girlfriend snarling at you like a pitbull you shouldn't say a thing to him about it yet. It will either drive a wedge between the two of them (she'll find out you told him trust me) or worse make him decide to lose you as a friend for fear of losing her.
While it's agonzing to " sit on this" for now its the best plan. Their relationship may blow up tomorrow or it will inevitably and you'll be in the wings when it does and then you can tell him your true feelings.
Right now the best thing you can do is to try and become as close as you can as friends first. Get him to trust you with everything and present yourself in a good light and maybe he'll see you as the better choice ether now or sooner than you think.
You have to be everything she isn't for him without yet crossing the "friend" line. Show him who he is missing and when their relationship ends you can go in and hit him with the obvious fact that you want to be his girlfriend with nobody getting hurt here or blowing up at you.
Don't try and pry him away from her as the friendships that are really deep between someone like you and him lead to powerful relationships later and trying to get him to ditch her will just explode in your face.
He would resent you and you better believe her claws and fangs will come out. You could always ask him just for a laugh what he thinks of that track Avril Lavigne just put out about the same sitution you are in called "Girlfriend".
I'm completely kidding here but if you joked songs like that and relationships in general with him he just might get it that his best friend may be the one for him.
It would also give you a sense if you joke about relationships and he starts opening up about his where the flaws are so you could later show him you're a healthier and better choice to be with.
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Although you may like him if he has a gf it would probably be a bad thing to tell himhow you feel because not only might it cause complications with him and his gf but also complications with him and your current relationship.
There is probably plenty you can do to make him leave her but the thing is how much of a friend would that really make you if you did something like that? And what if he eventually found out that you were the one who deliberately messed up his relationship with his gf just so you can have him to yourself? Do you really think he will even want to know you after that - especially if he's really into this girl he is with right now?
How come you had not told him before they started dating that you had liked him? Why wait until he was already taken? I think the grim reality is that either you try some underhanded way to break them up do you can try and get with him and risk your friendship in the hopes he won't find out or you just remain his friend and just let the feelings you have either fade away or just keep them to yourself.
I won't say which you should do but from a moral point of view (and I have been in this exact same situation) I would like to think that my best friend would be happy for me if I was happy too. I was in love with one of my friends very, very recently but I waited too long to say anything and when I decided I would she had gotten a bf. I decided not to say anything and even when they were going through problems I stood by her as a friend and did everything I could and advised her as best I could to try and have them resolve their situation so they would stay together because he made her happy (and it was really hard doing that all the while knowing that all I have to do is just turn her against him with a few carefully chosen words). Eventually they broke up though and when I told her how I feel... well that was last time I spoke to her, not heard anything from her since then.
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