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well, this sucks. o_o
hey, i'm 14/f and in 9th grade. =] and this is my story.
i always seem to make really good friends then somehow distance from them, then I cant talk to them anymore and now everything is so awkward. this has happened 3 times but there's only 2 girls i want to be friends with again.
i used to be best friends with a girl (I'll call her "Ellie") in 2nd grade to 5th grade. Then, we kind of drifted..and now I really want to be friends with Ellie again, but I have NO idea how to go about it. We havent talked in like 4 years or the entire school year, but now we share a class and I know she notices me because we've made eye contact but neither of us says hi..which is kind of awkward <_<
there's another girl who i was best friends with all 7th grade, i'll call her "Eyes" because she has the prettiest eyes =] Anyway, Eyes and I were kind of best friends; she moved to my town that year and we automatically became friends. once she started making new friends around that december, we kind of distanced, and we didnt really "talk" for the rest of the year because I was as shy as hell back then =P now she's in a class of mine, and i havent talked to her since; the only time i've really communicated with her was a small smile in the hallways back in october, but we havent even said "hi" since then, so that's pretty awkward too.
and here's something to complicate the situation:
Ellie and Eyes are practically best friends now.
so what can I do to like, reconcile (is that the right word? xD) with them? i mean, i dont want to come on too strong, because it's april of freshman year and i'm finally saying hi to them :p how awkward is that? I dont have either of their numbers (well I might have Ellie's if I seriously looked), and i dont want to look like a loser just walking up to them and going, "HI!"
Thanksforreading<3
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Don't worry. :D Your situation is actually a very common situation... Especially during the teenage years. During your teenage years, you're finding out who you are, changing rapidly... And friendships have a tendency to drift apart. Doesn't mean that you can't be friends again.
Why would you look like a loser if you walked up to them and said, "Hi!?" Because really... You're fear of doing this very thing is what is holding you back, and possibly holding them back as well. They've probably recognized you, but haven't said anything to you because they are just as afraid as you are. If you're both afraid to speak to each other, this is probably where most of the awkwardness stems from.
I suggest... Say hi and just be honest. You could walk up to one of them after class and just say, "Hey... I know we haven't talked in a while... I just wanted to ask how you are and maybe catch up." Give them your phone number... That way they can call you. Invite them to hang out.
You're probably afraid that if you talked to them or invited them to hang out, they might reject you. While there is a chance that they will, and would hurt if they did... Don't let that frighten you. Everyone rejects someone at one point in their lives, and everyone gets rejected at some point in their lives. If they reject you... It doesn't mean that there is anything wrong with you. Move on... You'll make new friends... Maybe you shouldn't be friends with them anyway.
(BTW... Proof that saying "hi" works... I made friends with my cousin's best friend back when we were about 11. We were never very close, and when my cousin and my friend had a "falling out" I didn't see or hear from my friend at all for 2-3 years. Then one day, I was shopping at Wal-Mart and I saw him at the photo-booth. I just walked up to him and said hello... And we started talking and hanging out... Now we are very close and have lived together for the past 2 years. See. It works. ;D)
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I'm shy as hell too, but it can be rude. if you want to be friends with them see what they like, hang out and tell them you want to be friends again. and if they dont keep in touch its not you its them. you need people who respect you of who you are. i found friends who are just like me but differences of course. and we became great pals like sisters. anyways. you need someone who likes who you R dont act like them or try to like what they like because you will weaste your time you need the right friends and to find them well, try to study with unknow pepole, talk to people in a club that you might like (art,music,fashion ect)in those school clubs things and you might find someone.
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that's a tough one.
do you have a myspace or sn? thats a GREAT way to break into new friendships if not i'll try and give you my best advice..
next time your with just one of them start real small talk. just hey how was your weekend? and whatever they say be like, oh how cool! we need to hang out sometime!.. or "we need to hang out like old times!" and then follow it up with "yea me you and ellie should hang out next weekend!"
and just got shopping or to the movies, something that doesn't require too much one on one action but ya'll can do as a whole! you really need to regain your confidence with these girls, it sounds like you're good at makin friends, just deplete silly thoughts like "this is so awkward" and go for it, they'll say yes, and ya'll will probably have a lot of fun.
oh yea and if shes up for it ask for her phone number so you can call her with plans! and give her yours!! good luck!
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