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she's not talking to me.
15/f, sorry its so long. well i have two best friends. basically we hang out all the time together, we're just a trio like that. so my school lets us go out to eat for lunch. one of those friends lives like a block away from the school, so basically everyday we go to her house. well a few weeks ago it was pouring and we decided to go to her house which was a stupid idea, cuz we got soaked, and i said i'd never do that again. so in my area, as some of you may know, there's been A LOT of rain..flooding and everything. well on friday in school it was raining again during lunch but myself and my other friend (not the one whose house is close to the school) refused to go out to the other ones house. but house(ill just call her that) had her lunch there so she had to go. so she went there and came back. when we talked over the weekend she told me she was upset w/ myself and my other friend. so today, it was raining again, and my other friend refused to go again. so i was like well im not going out if its pouring, and it wasnt pouring. so my other friend was getting all pissed at my house friend, and she stayed in. i followed house though, to her house lol. we both felt bad so we ate quickly and went back. my other friend was sitting with other people and when we went over she totally ignored us. and didnt say a word to either of us the rest of the day.
so now this is getting ME upset. like was it my fault? i know she definitely overreacted (we've gotten in fights like this before, and she always gets over it a few days later) but she's totally ignoring me. i mean, if i could, i would've split myself in half and went with both. but i didnt wanna make "house" upset again. when me and my other friend did this to house she was fine. now my other friend is just being stubborn. right?? what should i do? what should i say to her? thanks so much, sorry it was so long
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tell her exactly what you just said , if i could have split your self in half you would have and that last time you chose her and that this time you went with the 'house' friend. and that shes over reacting bc you decided to have lunch with the other friend and she could of went if she wanted too
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Basically, replace her with a better girl, who lives even closer and has a bigger house. If she realises that you run after her every time she becomes bitchy and all...then you ll turn her into a bad person. She cannot force you into doing stuff you dont want, or not doing stuff you want. She is just being manipulative and manipulative people suck.
They mostly stop being your friends once you stop doing what THEY want.
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You don't need to be sorry for it being long. :P It's a bad situation to be in when you are split between two friends who want to do different things and you have to pick one at the risk of upsetting the other. It's usually a lose-lose situation.
All I can say is that it's not your fault at all, you were put in a difficult position and at the end of the day you should be allowed to make your own choice. I think your friend is being stubborn but hopefully in a couple of days she will get over it and things should be back to normal but this will not stop the same thing from happening again. After she has gotten over it all it might be an idea for you all to talk about this and try to come to some kind of arrangement because you are obviously all good friends and the last thing you all would need is to have a little thing like this mess things up.
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