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oral sex
18/f
when me and my bf first started doing oral i used to try and swallow his cum, but we had a couple of bad experiences!! first time it all shot to the back of my mouth, must have hit my gag reflex and i nearly choked and started coughing, second time the same thing happened except i nearly threw up!! I had to swallow to stop myself being sick while he was cumming and that made me feel really sick after, i really disliked the texture and taste in my mouth. after this we've been using other methods which don't involve him cumming in my mouth but I know he wants me to try again even if I have to spit it out (he's not pressuring me or anything but I know he would like it and I do owe it to him to try again)... so my question is should i try and swallow it again or hold it in my mouth and go spit it out somewhere.... also any tips on how not to choke, cough or feel sick! Thanks so much!
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You don't actually owe anything to your boyfriend. In fact, I would suggest he owes you some more consideration (or maybe you owe yourself some!). Sure, he would like you to swallow. But it really doesn't work for you - if you're trying not to puke, it's clearly not something you are getting pleasure from at this point.
It's common to not swallow. It's common to pull your mouth away before the boy cums. If you would really like to try him cumming in your mouth again, some people swear by a glass of orange juice they can quickly drink when they're finished.
But essentially, if this is something you don't really enjoy - that's okay. Why not find a way that turns you BOTH on? I wish you the best.
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If you want to try swallowing again, ask him to give some sort of sign right before he cums. He could tug on your hair, arch is back, or whatever. Just make sure you know so you can prepare yourself. Try just sucking on the tip when you know he's about to ejaculate too. That way the cum won't have so much force behind it as opposed to you having it completely in your mouth to where it hits your gag reflex thing. << I have no clue what it's called.
But yeah, if it doesn't work out, it's not a big deal. It doesn't work out for a lot of people.
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If you don't like feeling sick or wanting to gag or throw up and do not wish to swallow then don't. You don't have to and you don't owe him that. You're in charge here and should tell him point blank that you cannt do that any more andhe has to warn you.
The best thing to do is for him to tell you when he thinks he's about to reach climax so you can pull away and catch any fluid in a kleenex instead.
Make him wear a condom. Make sure it is a non-lubricated one though as you don't want the spermicide and whatever else coats regular condoms in your mouth or swallowed. You might want to get flavored condoms as they are designed for this particular act for the purpose of retaining ejaculate. This should work.
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You don't 'owe' that Hun.
Yes, reciprocal oral stimulation can, and in my opinion should be, part of a healthy and enjoyable sexual relationship. Two key worlds there are 'stimulation' and 'enjoyable'. Oral stimulation is still enjoyable for men without orgasm, and if oral stimulation with orgasm is not enjoyable for you, and then your boyfriend simply gets to enjoy other kinds of stimulation when it comes to big finale. 'Nough said.
Of course, if you've only tried it a few times, by all means try again. However, DO NOT feel obligated to do something you don't like and DO NOT feel like your dislike of something is a personal failing. Men have absolutely no concept, and for the most part don't even want to think about, how difficult, tiring and occasionally unpleasant oral sex can be for their partners. You'll be doing every girl a favor if you set your boy straight on this. Nothing is a compulsory obligation when it comes to sex, relationships must strike a balance, where both parties have their needs meet without infringing on the needs of the other. If you canâ??t do that then the relationship wont last.
I'm afraid I might be skirting the bounds of what is considered decent on Advicenators, but I'll give you the best advice I have for not feeling sick afterwards: Make sure your boyfriend is giving you a verbal warning on his orgasm. He will probably know a good 10 seconds before you will. Don't stop whatever you are doing, but in my experience you don't want to have him right at the back of your mouth so try to stay to the front after he warns you. Yes, the taste can be bad, but as you have discovered, choking is even worse.
Also, try not to attempt this on an empty stomach. Just my personal experience there. Swallowing semen only makes me really ill if I am hungry, and if I do feel ill afterwards, a granola bar or some crackers makes me feel just fine again.
In my opinion, spitting only makes the taste last longer, so if you don't like it, swallowing the quickest way to get rid of the stuff. If you decide to spit, have a face cloth or something handy. Put it under your knee, or somewhere very close by so you'll know where it is without thinking. Hell, make him hold it so you know it won't get lost! Then take it from him when you need it.
Once more: If you two give it your best shot and you still don't like it. Don't feel obligated to do it. If you don't like it, but figure you can do it every once in a while, tell him so very clearly. Understand that if it's something you don't like, then it is something you do for him because his pleasure is important to you, not because he begs or bullies.
No matter what happens I hope you can learn its okay to say 'no' to your boyfriend. "No" doesn't mean "I don't love you" it means "No. I don't like that." Don't get the two confused!
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You dont owe him, If you dont want to swallow then don't. Men are all the same !
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